Unlike most guys I cant just go after any piece of tail at the bar. I have never had a one night stand in my life all my relationships have been with women I genualy care about. The honest truth is that I dont like very many women I meet in that way. Im physicaly attracted to ALOT of women but I am only attracted to a few women as a whole (mind and body). Wht this means id that I meet a woman I like about ohhhhhh every three years it seems.  

But even so this one is different than the rest. We have alot of very conflicting views on religion and science (I'm the scientist and she is the faith healer of sorts) but I care for her so genualy as a person that it makes no difference to me.  

Her is my problem I learned a long time ago that telling a girl your true feeling can go many different ways. She could make you the happieste man alive with her answer could crush your spirit or in the worst case scenario manipulate your feelings for her own gain. So since highschool I have never told a woman this early in a relationship. And for the first time in a long time I am really nervous about what she could say, which scares me. I mean we have been on 5 dates and I have not even tried to kiss her yet, 5 DATES!!!!  

All my female friends love this girl and think we are a very cute couple so they say I should tell her how I feel so I dont loose her. All my male friends love her and say I should do the same thing for the most part. But I'm still not sure.

EDIT just happened 2 nights ago

So I told her how I feel the other day and she was speachless at first, if you knew her you would know that does not happen to often to her. and this was her reply. paraphrased.

She is really busy in life right now (which she is I made it clear that I knew and understood that) and that she would like to take things slow since sheshe did not know if she could handle a relationship right now in her life. She then went on to say that no matter what she would alway slike to be friends, ( Which i agreed with 100% she is too important to me to throw our friendship away, but that is usualy the touch of death)

The probelem is Im not really sure how to take that, does that mean we are more than freinds, just friends, in a relationship but a slow one. I usualy get a response like yes or no. Rejection or acceptance. I just dont know how to continue with it.

Post edited at 10:34 am on Sep. 12, 2008 by Anonymous

Let her know you're serious about the relationship without freaking her out.

your heart is saying "I cant bare to be without her"
your mind is saying "I want like her, but I dont want to get hurt or hurt her"

I know how it feels...just give it time, you two will settle and grow fonder :)

Post edited at 7:40 am on Sep. 1, 2008 by LadyAlice18

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