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feel responsible
i told her to go...
Replies: 1Last Post Aug. 30 2:41am by nicecuppatea
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my girlfriend has a mild eating disorder...  shes been going to groups to try and help her, and she only had a couple left to go to before she was completely done with them.  i suggested that she should so she can get the groups over and done with, so she went...  long story short, she ended up gorging herself and binging afterwards, two separate times.  i cant help but feel somewhat responsible for suggesting that she go, and in a way presenting the situation to her.  i know i shouldnt be blaming myself but i cant help it...  she practically ditched me to go do it.  i had just told her that i was proud of her for going and getting it done.  she told me once she got home and she feels really bad about it, she knows she fucked up big time, she recognizes it... shes been doing so great lately too...  what happened?  i'm sure i will talk to her about how i feel in the morning, but i just wanted to put it in words first.

1:57 am on Aug. 30, 2008
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You're right you shouldn't blame yourself. You can't feel responsible for what she did, but you can try and understand what's going on with her.

Recovering from an eating disorder, whatever the severity of it is, is extremely difficult. It takes so much hard work and your girllfriend has done to even go to the group sessions. You just have to understand that she's trying to give up a habit, a way of life and though it seems terrible that she binged right near the end of finishing she is just relapsing. Don't take it as her giving up on all her hard work, she just had a slight lapse in her recovery.

If you want to help her try and ask her to explain her feelings about it. Why she thought she did it and stuff. It could  be a sign that she needs a little more help to recover. But the best thng you can do is let her know you'll support her through it all.


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