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Quote: from keiraoasis at 6:40 am on July 18, 2008

Its hard to know what exactly you are asking for, but i will try to help regardless.
Abortion is an option for al lot of people. In my opinion 3 things rectify having an abortion.
1. If a person can not financally manage having a child then they shoulld probably not be having a baby. (harsh but being a kid who grew up in a financially starved family its not easy)
2. Maturity levels. Girls at thirteen should avoid having sex!!!!!! My friend gave birth at 13 and she resents the child for taking away her life (social life)
3. Domestic violence. Be it physically OR emotionally. Why would you raise a child in a hurtful unloving atmosphere? HOW could you inflict that on a child. What sort of chilodhood would that be? And how could a mother let their flesh and blood grow up where love was her and potentially the child being trapped by her bf?
As a pregnant woman, and as a woman point blank, as a fellow human being!! She should be treated with dignity and respect. Her bf. was using her pregnancy against her.
Tell me thats right? Tell me that being treated like a bitch is fun? Tell me that with your hormones up in the air and your bf (who is supposed to love and comforrt you) blackmiling you trying to UNWILLINGLY shackle you down to a life your not sure want that you will not be in ABSOLUTE hysterics? You would be were you in a postition like hers (pray to god you never have to). In my opinion she done the right thing. (horrible thought it ay sound). Think brriefly for a moment. If her bf could blackmail her when she was pregnant, use the pregnancy to trap her, once he'd trapped her, could it lead to physical abuse? Noot just to your friend but her child. What kind of so-called-MAN does that? What kind of so-called-MAN uses his child for leverage against his PREGNANT girlfriend?
Yes, she should have had the good sense to tell her mother as soon as she knew she was pregnant but she'll just have to live and learn.
What i believe she is experienceing now is the aftermath of her decision. It happens to a lot of women. They REGRET their decision and that is the BIG thing i would warn about when a woman comes to me looking for advice on having an abortion.
My friend went through the same motions even at 5am. All you can do is be there and listen to her. Her woes, her hopes and advize her as you see fit. This WILL pass, she WILL survive. She MUST remember she done this for a reason. That reason is who she is sstill with. Surprisingly but it is her life. However it is notup to you to bare this burden alone, she also has her mom to talk to. Surely she is concerned of her daughterss welfare?
She MUST remember two things.
1.Whats done is done. That is the decision that suited her at the time and that is the one she must now live with.
2.The girl has her WHOLE life ahead of her. She will have other children if she so desires them. Have all the more chances in the world to show love and concern to those around her.
Tell her its o.k. to mourn. Its nothing if natural. However at a time she must move on and know that her decision must not go down in vain. Their are a million million other women in her exact postition, she is not alone. She is NEVER alone.
Give your friend my best.
Take care (of your friend AND y

It really doesn't warrant such a long post.

I'm a pretty compassionate person and I'm sitting her not caring. She can do that too. Or she can wallow in her own misery for the next few years.

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