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i'm not feeling the spark
Replies: 10 — Last Post July 26, 2008 7:29am by Is this you
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so, i've been dating my bf for almost 10 months, we're on summer break from college and we live 4 hours apart. i've increasingly felt less excited about him and less passion idk i just feel like i'm over it... this is such a weird/stressful/confusing/hard feeling to have and i need some perspective.

is just the long distance? will everything get back to normal when school starts back up?

what do i do?

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What do you mean, over it? Like you wanna date other people?

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nigeltheoutlaw


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Try ahving cullingus. That should get you going. Or anal sex, or doggy style. Do some kinky stuff or something different to keep it fun.

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like i feel like the relationship isn't going to go anywhere. i know i don't want to marry him but i love him. it sounds weird and maybe i'm just kidding myself

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crazy4you


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It's just the distance, trust me. I feel the same way about my boyfriend and we have been together for 7 months, but we aren't together very often anymore.

Just wait it off or try to be together more often or do extra special things when you are together. I'm sure everything will get back to normal when school starts.

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twilightdancer


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I definitely wouldn't do anything drastic like dump him or anything until like a month after you move back in at school.
You never know, it could be the distance, or you might have just moved on.  But don't ruin a potentially good thing by ending it too early :)

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somelikeitred


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see how you feel when you see him again...but if you havent seen him in awhile...and you don't miss him..thats a good indicator that he isn't for you.

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If you dn't feel the spark, and he does, your best bet is to let him know what's going on. You cannot go on living a lie.

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Quote: from cptg at 10:10 pm on July 20, 2008
like i feel like the relationship isn't going to go anywhere. i know i don't want to marry him but i love him. it sounds weird and maybe i'm just kidding myself

It may be the distance that is affecting your feelings, but either way it seems like you should break it off. It might be better to make a decision when you see him again; maybe you can talk things over with him.

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ChandraMoon


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Dump him. Distance makes things hard but if you are passionless about him already, it just wasn't meant to be.
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Is this you


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Two words. Summer fling.

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