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Quote: from Just Waiting Here at 2:38 am on July 20, 2008I suppose you just have to accept yourself and realize that just because you aren't good in the more 'accepted' way, doesn't mean that you don't have you own amazing talents to support you :).

Agreed. We can't please everyone, but there ought to be at least a handful who will be bound to notice your talent.

Now only if we can get the rest of the world to realise that, rather than heaping on the judgements and criticism...

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No kidding.  And I mean, aprents aren't always a help either in terms of how they put so much pressure on children.

i work with little kids, I mean, 3-6 year olds for one of my jobs.  One of the mom's... she's so particular, and I can tell that her child will probably be one of those that feels SO much pressure from her family to do well.

I mean, the kid is 4, and her mom makes her rewrite any letter that doesn't look proper, when most kids at that age, are expected to do their best to build up the muscles and just get familiar with the letters... and if the kid makes one little mistake, like forgets a page, or writes a number backwards, or just gets an answer wrong, her mom will reprimand her and tell her she's doing a bad job, and ask her what's wrong with her... and she's 4 -__-'.  And I remind her mom all the time that she is WAY beyond other children...

Society and part of it might be the way we're just raised from our family and how our parents were raised themselves... :(.

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Society and part of it might be the way we're just raised from our family and how our parents were raised themselves...

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Definitely, though you can't always fault the parents for wanting their child to grow up smart, or with certain abilities. I actually feel that those are the parents who do feel that they take on a lot of responsibility for their kids.

In the end, as with most things, we'll eventually need to reach a compromise. Pressure is good, too much pressure is not. We do want our children to have a bright future, and yet we don't want to push them far enough to make them insecure or withdraw totally from their interests.

After that, it's up to people like us who have to step in and help others realise what really counts, like you seem to be doing a great job of.

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All hope was fading... a darkness far beyond their might
But love came crusading on the wings of healing sacrifice

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Quote: from Just Waiting Here at 2:55 am on July 20, 2008

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Society and part of it might be the way we're just raised from our family and how our parents were raised themselves...

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Definitely, though you can't always fault the parents for wanting their child to grow up smart, or with certain abilities. I actually feel that those are the parents who do feel that they take on a lot of responsibility for their kids.

In the end, as with most things, we'll eventually need to reach a compromise. Pressure is good, too much pressure is not. We do want our children to have a bright future, and yet we don't want to push them far enough to make them insecure or withdraw totally from their interests.

After that, it's up to people like us who have to step in and help others realise what really counts, like you seem to be doing a great job of.

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Thanks, you too :)

And I do think that it's important for a parent to let their child realize that education is important and it can help you out.  But I rarely hear the mother give her daughter praise.. it's always criticism... if she writes a letter backwards (and trust me, ALL kids do), then her mother accuses her of not paying attention and the like.  Sometimes it's just nice to see people acknowledge that your child CAN make a mistake, they aren't perfect.

But from that, I see the other end of the spectrum.  The parents that don't do anything to help their kid, and that shows as well.  I would take the pressuring parent any day, even though it my be tough... at least they are putting in the effort :).

You are still worthless if you cannot get the desired results.