My ex and I have already signed a lease to live together next school year. I know this isn't the best of ideas, but it's a done deal already. I'm struggling with my funds and can't really afford to get someone to take over my lease; I've had to do that before and it ate a hole in my pocket.

Anyway, we have a lot of stuff to work through and we still love each other. But a lot of things have happened in the past that makes us have trust issues. Lots of them.

We don't talk much either. Probably because of all the stuff that's happened in the past, that's what we think about most of the time. When we start to talk about things, it just gets ugly and our problems never get solved.

He said to me tonight that he's not compatible with my family, either. Also that when we're together, we don't do anything. I mean I always suggest us going out and doing something fun, but he would rather sit around on his computer all day.

We're both still in love with each other and we'll be living together for the next year, but we have all this stuff to deal with.

If you were me, living with him for the next year or so, what would you do to make things better? I can't really get out of the lease and I want to make this work. I just don't know how.

Any advice would be much appreciated  

so i started going out alot with other ppl and he started wanting to go out with me too :]

aaannnd im sure while you guys are together in the apartment you will be some physical things and that will also bring you closer...

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MystiqueBeauty16 is my LW sister!

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well living together will put you guys together all the time, this can be your chance to show him that you will go out, while he goes to his computer.. i have a guy whos similar whenever i say lets go somewhere he wants to go to his house...

so i started going out alot with other ppl and he started wanting to go out with me too :]

aaannnd im sure while you guys are together in the apartment you will be some physical things and that will also bring you closer...

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He is too worried when I go out and do other things because in the past I've given him reason to worry, if you know what I mean.

Quote: from thesillyasian at 1:06 am on July 24, 2008

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the only think u can do is talk it out....i know talks turn in to arguments...but if u both agree to just talk and not yell...things will get accomplished...and if things get too heated...just suggest to take a break from the conversation and u can continue later when u two have both calmed down...

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Problem with that is we never get anything accomplished.

Don't know how you are going to worm out of this one.

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I would suggest that you stay very busy studying and focusing on your school. After all, that is why you are there, not to co habitat with someone. If you can't talk and resolve differences the relationship will never work out.

Don't know how you are going to worm out of this one.

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Yeah, I guess that's really all I can do. Thanks for your help.