LiveWire Network Peer Answers Peer Support Teen Forums Tech Forums College Forums 458 users online 211589 members 229 active today Advertise Here Sign In
TeenCollegeTechPhotos | Quizzes | LiveSecret | Memberlist | Dictionary | News | FAQ
Member Spotlight
Love Sex Magic
Movies: A Walk to Remember, The Notebook, Saw,...
Mood: Bored
You have 1 new message.
Emergency Help
Until you sign up you can't do much. Yes, it's free.

Sign Up Now
Membername:
Password:
Already have an account?
Invite Friends
Active Members
Groups
Contests
Moderators
2 online / 55 MPM
Fresh Topics
  LiveWire / College Forums / College Dating & Relationships / Viewing Topic

Was I wrong or right?
Replies: 21Last Post July 27, 2008 2:52pm by nik1
Welcome to LiveWire!
We're Stronger Together.
Join the Community
Pages: 1 2  Next » Email Print Favorite
Choice Votes Percent  
You were Right 28 70%
You were Wrong 12 30%
Vote Now! 40 Votes Cast
( swtpie )


Wealthy Hobo
Reply
My boyfriend and I always fight after he visits his parents. They always say horrible things about me. He just says, "I know, I know. Can we change the subject."

Well, it really hurts that he doesn't stand up for me. Six years together, and he allows people to talk shit about me, and agrees with them. He says he can't tell them off cause they are his parents and they'll yell at him. And that they'll say again and again anyways.

I can't take it. I hate being with someone who doesn't stand up for me. It hurts.

I've been thinking it over, and I decided enough was enough. I can't stand his family budding in and causes us so many problems.

So today I told my boyfriend that I loved him, but I can't keep this up. I told him if he can't stand up for me, then I'm gone. I refuse to be talked about like that.

He obviously got upset and started getting loud and yelling. He knows it will be hard for him to do, and apparently doesn't want to lose me.

Was I right to say that?


7:40 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: Mar. 2008 | Days Active: 138
Join to learn more about swtpie Alberta, Canada | Posts: 2,506 | Points: 4,065
Bzoink


♠ ♣ ♥ ♦

Patron
Reply
You were wrong.

7:40 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: Nov. 2005 | Days Active: 447
Join to learn more about Bzoink Oregon, United States | Label Free Male | Posts: 14,196 | Points: 40,412
( swtpie )


Wealthy Hobo
Reply
Quote: from Bzoink at 7:40 pm on July 22, 2008

You were wrong.

How?


7:41 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: Mar. 2008 | Days Active: 138
Join to learn more about swtpie Alberta, Canada | Posts: 2,506 | Points: 4,065
SovSull


what do i write here

Patron
Reply
Quote: from Bzoink at 10:40 pm on July 22, 2008

You were wrong.

i don't see how


7:41 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: Feb. 2004 | Days Active: 1,097
Join to learn more about SovSull New York, United States | Posts: 6,731 | Points: 30,021
Loner Dragon

Advisor
Reply
you were right

-------
This Cool F**ker Was X

7:41 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: July 2008 | Days Active: 27
Join to learn more about Loner Dragon Ohio, United States | Bi-curious Female | Posts: 237 | Points: 442
Fortis Obscurum


Visionary

Sustainer
Reply
You were right as a river runs.

-------
Disobedience is the true foundation of liberty.
The obedient must be slaves.
-Henry David Thoreau

7:41 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: May 2008 | Days Active: 289
Join to learn more about Fortis Obscurum Washington, United States | Lesbian Male | Posts: 5,532 | Points: 9,326
hound


Wealthy Hobo
Reply
Yes.
He should be standing up for you!!!
I was in a similar situation, where my Gf was being yelles at without explaining.
I was so angry I screamed at them about how stupid they are, and how they didnt give her a chance.
..I feel special.

-------
I like work. It fascinates me. I sit and look at it for hours.

7:42 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: Sep. 2007 | Days Active: 192
Join to learn more about hound Australia | Straight Male | Posts: 2,651 | Points: 4,624
boothy

Enlightened One

Patron
Reply
There is no right or wrong, everything is subjective, nothing is black or white.

P.S: You were wrong.

-------
"reclaiming public spaces as a space for public imagination
and enlightenment where they have become propagandistic
barriers to thought and awareness"


7:42 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: July 2006 | Days Active: 338
Join to learn more about boothy England, United Kingdom | Straight Male | Posts: 10,842 | Points: 14,589
DanaStar


Dairy Product Addict
Reply
You were right. You have every right to stand up for your self.
Hopefully he'll make amends.

Post edited at 7:44 pm on July 22, 2008 by DanaStar


7:42 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: May 2008 | Days Active: 49
Join to learn more about DanaStar British Columbia, Canada | Female | Posts: 707 | Points: 1,378
ero


Grasshopper
Reply
Some people avoid conflict with their parents and just accept what they're saying because, well, they're his parents. He knows them better than you (probably) ever will, and as a result, he knows that he can't sway their opinions. To be baited and fight with his own parents about the girl he's dating is ridiculous and it's just easier to avoid the argument altogether.

If you want to be an oversensitive, bitchy little girlfriend, then sure, you're in the right. Kin never win fights over their parents, except in special cases, such as, saaaay, filicide.

PS: Oh, and by the way, by playing the, 'I can't stand that you can't protect me from your big, bad wolf-parents!' card, you're just further confirming what your parents are saying in the first place.

Actions are more of a tell than words are; if he's still with you after all that bullshit that his parents fling, be fucking grateful. Would you rather he defend you and break up with you?

Post edited at 7:45 pm on July 22, 2008 by ero


7:42 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: July 2008 | Days Active: 5
Join to learn more about ero Canada | Posts: 12 | Points: 64
Trastie

Omnipotent One
Reply
Quote: from swtpie at 8:40 pm on July 22, 2008

So today I told my boyfriend that I loved him, but I can't keep this up. I told him if he can't stand up for me, then I'm gone. I refuse to be talked about like that.


Jesus fucking Christ, how egotistical are you? So if someone says something mean to you on the street you are going to run home and cry to your mom?

Fact of the matter is his parents have more of an influence on his life. Are you really surprised? If so you are the fucking idiot in this situation. It's understandable why he wouldn't stand up to his 'rents. It's human nature.

-------
Stop exploding, you cowards!


7:43 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: July 2006 | Days Active: 551
Join to learn more about Trastie Colorado, United States | Straight | Posts: 14,532 | Points: 19,857
bg kNIFE

Omnipotent One

Patron
Reply
Enjoy being single.

-------
Trolling is a art.

7:43 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: Feb. 2005 | Days Active: 773
Join to learn more about bg kNIFE Bulgaria | Straight Male | Posts: 7,109 | Points: 17,093
PotPom


Professional
Reply
i think you are wrong to be mad at him because its not his fault he cant back talk his parents... some people can't, however he should stick up for you, after 6 years. If it really bothers you then he needs to portect you better how he does that you need to work out with him.

-------
My mind is so open, that it often falls out of my head...
.. incedently i have a hard time keeping it clean...

7:44 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: May 2008 | Days Active: 136
Join to learn more about PotPom Texas, United States | Bisexual Male | Posts: 1,066 | Points: 2,516
Evolutionism


Professional
Reply
You did exactly what you had to do.

-------
Evolutionism
本 諾

7:46 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: July 2008 | Days Active: 72
Join to learn more about Evolutionism Oregon, United States | Label Free | Posts: 1,180 | Points: 2,491
hurricanemisses


Professional
Reply
i would of done the same thang!!

-------
k33p it 100% r3@l @t @ll tym3s

7:49 pm on July 22, 2008 | Joined: June 2008 | Days Active: 199
Join to learn more about hurricanemisses Florida, United States | Straight Female | Posts: 645 | Points: 2,752
Pages: 1 2  Next » Email Print Favorite

Quick Reply

You are signed in as our guest.

Looking for something else?
 

  LiveWire / College Forums / College Dating & Relationships / Viewing Topic