My girlfriend and I have been together for 4.5 months, we have never been a couple to have sex everyday, although it would be nice, but we used to have sex 1-3 times a week and now we haven't had sex in 2 weeks. She was depressed for a while and just wasn't in the mood. Today I asked her if we could have sex and she basically said she's not in the mood and I asked if I could get her in the mood and she kind of groaned (in a bad way)... any advice?
I am trying to respect her, but I want to have sex and our relationship isn't doing so well either, I want something healthy in this relationship and no I do not only care about sex at all.
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Sex isn't always the healthiest thing in a relationship. Maybe you should take a break from sex and try to fix whatever is going on before you two are intimate again.
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JMACCA
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Is she on her period?
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Quote: from lingerie gurl at 12:52 pm on July 18, 2008
Sex isn't always the healthiest thing in a relationship. Maybe you should take a break from sex and try to fix whatever is going on before you two are intimate again.
agreed
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no
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Umm.. try asking her why she is depressed, and help her deal with it, because that is the most urgent thing other than sex. Do spontaneous things to make her feel better, cook her favourite dinner, stuff like that to slowly make her feel happier.
I would say go from there and just be as constructive as you can!
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i feel for you man. you still have to just wait it out pretty much.
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Quote: from wingedmisery at 12:53 pm on July 18, 2008
no
That must be part of the problem. You are too hormanal. Are you in this relationship just for the sex? Is sex so important you would forsake that person's needs?
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Quote: from wingedmisery at 12:53 pm on July 18, 2008
no
That must be part of the problem. You are too hormanal. Are you in this relationship just for the sex? Is sex so important you would forsake that person's needs?
The no was for the period, nothing else.. don't analyze too much
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You've got to respect her decision. So what if you're not getting sex? That's what your hands are for. Jack off, or something. Show her you love her, in other ways. I guarantee she still loves you. She's probably just trying to prove to herself that it's not just about the sex. Which I don't blame her for.
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she's probably cheating on you. Why else would someone not want to have sex in two weeks? Because she's getting from somewhere else but that guy isn't going to give her a relationship so she comes to you for that. Don't buy into the crap people are telling you on here; nobody goes without sex for two weeks because they are 'depressed' or 'not in the mood'. She's not in the mood becaise she just had sex with that other guy but she doesn't want to face the anger you're going to give her if she wants to break up. She wants you to break it off so she doesn't feel guilty for cheating on you.
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TigressaLynnMae
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she's probably cheating on you. Why else would someone not want to have sex in two weeks? Because she's getting from somewhere else but that guy isn't going to give her a relationship so she comes to you for that
Or, you know, being we're in a college forum, and not some hormonally challenged teen forum, perhaps she just doesn't want sex. I've gone a month, without giving my guy sex/letting my guy fuck me, and it's not because I'm getting some from someone else. It's because I want our relationship to be more intimate, than sexual.
Don't buy into the crap people are telling you on here; nobody goes without sex for two weeks because they are 'depressed' or 'not in the mood'.
*shakes head* "Not in the mood" is just as logical as anything else. You don't know that she's off fucking another guy. She's probably just wanting a break from that.
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