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 Replies: 6 — Last Post July 6 12:50am by iamben
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Web Resources: Suicide Myths Dispelled, Suicide Information
USA Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)
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I was inspired to make this topic, after reading what nisiyouri had to say about depression. [I would post the link, but I think it was part of the bug as the text is missing]. Basically, nisiyouri just wanted to change people's thoughts and feelings, and help as much as possible when it comes to suicide issues. For those of you who can't get onto it, then the name of the topic is 'my personal cure'. Like nisiyouri, I feel great when I give people advice on here and outside the virtual world. The thought of being able to help someone is a great feeling, and when it comes to depression is even greater, because you know that you might be saving a life (very literally in fact). I was diagnosed with depression, and because I felt so bad I tried to kill myself twice. It didn't work, and I am still here today. When I came out of the hospital things still didn't change, but then I started doing more to try and forget about it, and I managed to gain support from others. I also listened to positive music and followed in the footsteps of my hero (Bob Marley, who I utterly adore). Instead I could have listened to The Smiths all day and been as miserable as Morrissey (another idol of mine), but I decided not to. I know what it's like feeling so crappy as I've been there. I know what it's like to be passed from pillar to post and having no one to support you. Those who reply on this forum, are in no way medical professionals, but they will listen to you. Mental illness will not go away unless YOU make yourself feel better. Fellow livewarians who are in a distressed state, we are here to help YOU to help YOURSELVES.
Post edited at 12:29 am on July 6, 2008 by Ad libitum
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Quote: from Ad libitum at 3:22 pm on July 6, 2008
 Like nisiyouri, I feel great when I give people advice on here and outside the virtual world. The thought of being able to help someone is a great feeling, and when it comes to depression is even greater, because you know that you might be saving a life (very literally in fact). 
I don't think that's always true though. I like helping other people, but it doesn't always make me feel better, especially when you realise what you say isn't having an effect. I find that in some instances, rather than feeling better, I get caught up with the mentality and a feeling of hopelessness and inadequacy. So, I think you always have to be careful, just to maintain that level of sanity.
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Quote: from iamben at 8:28 am on July 6, 2008
Quote: from Ad libitum at 3:22 pm on July 6, 2008
Like nisiyouri, I feel great when I give people advice on here and outside the virtual world. The thought of being able to help someone is a great feeling, and when it comes to depression is even greater, because you know that you might be saving a life (very literally in fact).
I don't think that's always true though. I like helping other people, but it doesn't always make me feel better, especially when you realise what you say isn't having an effect. I find that in some instances, rather than feeling better, I get caught up with the mentality and a feeling of hopelessness and inadequacy. So, I think you always have to be careful, just to maintain that level of sanity.
But doesn't it make you feel better when they at least appear to be getting help? Like, when you see them online the next day, after talking about suicide?
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Quote: from Ad libitum at 3:30 pm on July 6, 2008
But doesn't it make you feel better when they at least appear to be getting help? Like, when you see them online the next day, after talking about suicide?
Of course. Helping people usually does make me feel better, but not always. That person might have been talking about suicide the night before, and then they might continue to do so the next day.. as if what you said didn't mean anything. I realise it's not always the case, but there are some instances where I just end up worse off then when I started.
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Quote: from iamben at 8:37 am on July 6, 2008
Quote: from Ad libitum at 3:30 pm on July 6, 2008
But doesn't it make you feel better when they at least appear to be getting help? Like, when you see them online the next day, after talking about suicide?
Of course. Helping people usually does make me feel better, but not always. That person might have been talking about suicide the night before, and then they might continue to do so the next day.. as if what you said didn't mean anything. I realise it's not always the case, but there are some instances where I just end up worse off then when I started.
Yes, I feel like that at the moment with someone I know in real life. Although, I would love to think that she is in the least bit grateful of the support I've tried to give her. I feel like it's my duty to help others on here too. Yet, sometimes, it does seem an impossible task.
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Quote: from Ad libitum at 3:39 pm on July 6, 2008
Yes, I feel like that at the moment with someone I know in real life. Although, I would love to think that she is in the least bit grateful of the support I've tried to give her. I feel like it's my duty to help others on here too. Yet, sometimes, it does seem an impossible task.
I can relate to that. I just try to help as I go, and trying my best to pertain to some amount of logical reasoning. I have a friend in real life who was making me feel worse off, and in the end, just trying to be supportive and logical paid off. But, it does become particularly draining as it becomes more personal. And I think that at some point you have to accept that you cant 'fix' people completely, you can only help out, which means you shouldn't feel like it's your duty to always help them.
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