But it REALLY bothers me when a guy I have a crush or my boyfriend has a best friend whose a girl.

There shouldn't be anything wrong with this, but everytime I've encountered this with someone I've been dating, or just from observation, it is not entirely platonic.

My last boyfriend, his best friend was a girl. They literally hung out all the time, alone. Everytime I called, she was there, or had just left.

Or, a friend of mine, whose best friend is a guy. We went to camp together, and he happened to be there, and he would stand outside her room every morning and walk with her to breakfast and to class.

But of course, in the both situations, I got the "Nah, we're just really close" answer.

Shit, that bothers me. It really does. I have/had a best guy friend, we haven't talked in months though, but we hung out a lot, but not 24/7. And at one point, he did like me.

If I like a guy who has a best friend whose a girl, I feel like I can't go out with the guy unless I'm like, BFF with the girl.

Idk, what's your opinion?

Post edited at 4:34 pm on July 6, 2008 by HateParents

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Penis.

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alot of my friends are girls.

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Likewise, I have many guy friends. But that was not the point.

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alot of my friends are girls.

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Well, you're probably gay.

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Penis.

so i see why it would bother you...it would bother me too lol

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One word....and ill get all KGB's after you
just one word...

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Jealousy is completely normal and there will always be disputes in relationships over who the persons friend's are. Although, he shouldn't have to break off a relationship with his best friend merely because you are dating him.

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I don't think I am jealous.

My point was, it would bother me if there was no difference in the activities between my boyfriend and I, and him and his best friend.

Post edited at 4:35 pm on July 6, 2008 by welovedisneyworld

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Quote: from HateParents at 4:33 pm on July 6, 2008

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Jealousy is completely normal and there will always be disputes in relationships over who the persons friend's are. Although, he shouldn't have to break off a relationship with his best friend merely because you are dating him.

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I don't think I am jealous.  

My point was, it would bother me if there was no difference in the activities between my boyfriend and I, and him and his best friend.

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yeah and what I'm saying is it's completely normal. one of the reasons i broke up with my 8month ex is because the only things I had that her guy friends didn't was kissing and sexy time. She would say "i love you" and give them hugs all the time. Fuck that.

That feeling is called jealousy @_@

Post edited at 4:37 pm on July 6, 2008 by HateParents

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Penis.

I've had a best guy friend for a while and it gets things a bit weird. Even if jealousy issues don't arise, the guys kinda rub on each other the wrong way and something's going on. So i dunno, I don't have a solution for this, for you. But I find in general it is less of a problem when it's the guy who has the best-friend, rather than the girl.