Girls... would you feel comfortable doing anything with a guy that had a girlfriend, but the guy had permission from the gf?
My girlfriend and I have been together for close to a year and a half now and we're pretty sure that we're never going to break up... it's kind of a given that eventually we're getting married and blah blah blah...
So now we've agreed to be "non-exclusive" which basically means we give each other permission to do whatever with other guys/girls. She says she doesn't care what I do as long as I tell her and don't do it behind her back. But everyone knows we're together so before I can do anything with anyone I have to take the time to explain everything to the girl and then I'm not sure how she would take it.
So what would you think if a guy told you this?
4:46 pm on July 6, 2008
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Have you no morals or boundaries! Come on man!
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Yes I do actually... but my definition of morality is making sure you don't hurt or bother anyone else. Other than that, there's no reason you shouldn't do what you want and live your ONE AND ONLY life to the fullest. We've talked this out and decided that it's what works for us. So then where's the moral problem?
4:51 pm on July 6, 2008
Uhhello
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Sounds like swinging :). Tbh, i kinda like the idea of complete and utter open honesty. Never feeling guilty for flirting or w.e. And you can always talk about your experiences.
Idk if i'd ever do it though :). If you like it, do so.
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pumpkin475
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this is sick. i can't believe that for one, a girl would allow her bf to do that and two, that the bf would want to do that
that's signs of not a very serious relationship
anytime i'm ever heard of couples doing this, eventually one starts doing it behind someone's back and then they break up. i know two different couples who did that. one couple broke up because he cheated on her even though before hand they would have multiple partners. i guess it's different if one knows about it which is stupid. and the other the girl went through HUGE drama with her cheating bf but she stayed with the jerk anyway
these were both couples that were "non-exclusive" and this "non-exclusive" crap only brings drama and heartbreak
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I wouldnt like that, it would make me feel like i wasnt good enough. if i was the guy would want me and not anyone else
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Lady Cyanide
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I'd turn him down...
-mainly because I don't do the whole "hooking up outside of relationships" thing -especially if I didn't know the girl at all (I'd have to check with her first honestly xP) OR -if I knew the girl really well
Yes I do actually... but my definition of morality is making sure you don't hurt or bother anyone else. Other than that, there's no reason you shouldn't do what you want and live your ONE AND ONLY life to the fullest. We've talked this out and decided that it's what works for us. So then where's the moral problem?
No, I meant that's what I would think.
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Yes I do actually... but my definition of morality is making sure you don't hurt or bother anyone else. Other than that, there's no reason you shouldn't do what you want and live your ONE AND ONLY life to the fullest. We've talked this out and decided that it's what works for us. So then where's the moral problem?
so in that case, lets just throw out all physical virtues and open ourselves up to obtaining STDs (then giving them to your gf), getting people pregnant with unwanted babies, and all kinds of fun stuff like that! YAY!!!!!!!!
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Just screw the girl frist and not say anything. Explain to your girl friend aferward
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Tigerhawk
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It's okay if your gf alows you to do this. Except I think I'd feel weird sleeping with someone who is not someone I am not in a relationship with. But I guess thered be exceptions
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Pebbles123
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Mmm. I find it odd when people do this :S If you liked her so much you wouldn't want to do stuff with anybody else.
Well :/ I got with a guy at a party who had a girlfriend (which i didn't know about at the time but pfttt) Its the guys choice anyway if he cheats, nothing to do with me.
How on earth doing you feel comfertable knowing that your girls ragging someone else?
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Sounds like swinging :). Tbh, i kinda like the idea of complete and utter open honesty.
I do too. I think a relationship is at it's most pure when you feel free to express your thoughts and feelings to your partner. That's what we aim for. If she happens to be attracted to another guy, what's the point of freaking out about it? It's a natural biological thing that she can't help. What's the point of being jealous? Should I be scared that she'll leave me for someone else? That's just selfish. I'm not making her date me. I know she's doing it by her own free will, which makes it more special as far as I'm concerned. If she decides to choose someone else over me, then she should have that freedom to do what makes HER most happy in life. I think people have the wrong idea...
4:58 pm on July 6, 2008
ilovethatbiotch
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i told my bf the same thing. he wont. he said he would only if i was literally there.
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