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I'm the good girl, the one who doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't do drugs, isn't promiscuous, etc. You know where that got me? Nowhere. My ex told me that I'm arrogant and that I think I'm better than everyone else and that it's disgusting. Okay, so I loosen up, decide, "Hey, I like this guy at work, I think I'll flirt with him. I don't know if he's single but when has that ever stopped anyone before? And, fuck, if he isn't, he can ignore me." My ex's response? "Yeah, you should check first." But, none of the girls who hit on him did. And some of them even knew he was taken and yet he wouldn't say one bad thing about them and fought tooth and nail to keep them around. He even defended their actions by basically saying, "Hey, they're single, they can fuck what they want, flirt with what they want, whatever. It doesn't matter anyways, I'm taken, I won't do anything." I'M SINGLE TOO!!!! Why can't I do what I want without being called a slut? If I take the high road and behave myself, I'm arrogant. If I loosen up and decide, hey, I think I want to makeout with that guy just for fun, I'm a whore. I don't know what's right, what'll make me happy, etc. I'm so confused and frustrated. All I know is that, right now, as I am, I'm not happy. 
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Darkane
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If you're not happy it could be because you're listening too much to what people think of you.
Do what you like, if something appeals to you, do it. If it doesn't, then don't.
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Spiral
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You should never have been "the good girl" then, it's given you a boring reputation, so now anything bad you do is seen as 100x worse.
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1:53 pm on July 6, 2008 | Joined Nov. 2005 | 422 Days Active
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SheMintsEclectic
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Just flirt with someone who you know is single next time.
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Duke
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So are you interested in having a life, or trying to prove some point. Sounds to me like you don't know who you are or what you want, you're just like a leaf on the river, being pushed along with no control over where you end up.
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Quote: from lingerie gurl at 4:55 pm on July 6, 2008
 Have you tried Internet dating?
It was hard for me finding the right guy, because well, I am not the wholesome girlie girl most guys want. I am a little over confident at times. I have a strong sense of leadership and I am more patriotic than most people I know. I didn't want to date another person in the military like me, it would be too difficult, so I just tried different sites and put myself out there. I was 100% honest and straight forward about myself, and it worked. I am now engaged to my fiance who is a police officer. I think we are a perfect match. Anyway, the site I used was
http://www.plentyoffish.com
It is different because it is 100% free, they don't charge you for anything at all. 
I met my ex online and he's the jackass who fucked me up. I think I want a guy offline this time.
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First, simply because one follws rules and is "good" doesn't mean theyre a good person. They could have an attitude, think too highly of themselves, etc. Secondly, you seem to be going by what your ex says which obviously isn't going to be a fair judgment. I'd say keep on doing what you do, don't ask you ex about his opinions, be nice, flirt if you want and youll find out if someone is taken or likes you soon enough.
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Quote: from ManicD at 4:55 pm on July 6, 2008
sounds like your ex dont want you no more, but he also dont want anyone else to have you
He only wants me if he can fuck me and you can't fuck when you're 3,000 miles apart. I had everything set up so that we'd be together but then he fucked it up and right back to the long distance BS we went. So, yeah...he loves me...but wants sex...but doesn't want me to have sex...or something along those lines, I've never asked him about it, I can't even bring myself to talk to him at this point, I'm too irritated, confused, and upset.
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