I was "seeing" this guy, Seth, for roughly seven months. I refer to it as seeing because we weren't technically dating. I liked him, he liked me... it was basically understood that we were in a relationship, or something of the sort. But at the same time, he also flirted with other girls and got horribly angry with me when I even spoke to a guy other than himself. Oh, and it took him FOREVER to actually make a move on me... Seth was kind of... er... weird. Needless to say, the relationship finally ended on somewhat bad terms. I told him I didn't want to speak with him and that I felt used.

I've been really good friends with his best friend for over a year now. I was so focused on Seth that I never really noticed how compatible he and I were. A few months after Seth and I "split", we started hanging out a lot. Around Father's day I snuck out with him one night and we went to his house just to hang out. He ended up kissing me, and I of course kissed him back. Things since then have been steadily progressing, but I'm scared that the same thing that happened with Seth is going to happen again. He basically told me that he's recently been pretty afraid of relationships because the past few he's been in have severely fucked up in some way. He admits that what Seth did was shitty, but he has yet to ask me out. I don't want to pressure him, but at the same time... I don't want this relationship to turn out like it did last time. Any advice?

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i'm ugly, and impatient. guys only want my boobz.

Keep in mind, you have as much control over the relationship as he does.  You don't need to pressure him; you can ask him out yourself.  And contrary to folklore, guys like that.  It takes the pressure off them.

Like with Seth, he took forever to make a move on you.  You can make the first move, too.  

One of the reasons it seems like guys have power in relationships is because it's expected they will lead, at least in the beginning.  But you have an equal opportunity to take control of and direct the relationship the way you want it to go.  Then you can see if it works for you.

Good luck