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waiting until marriage

Replies: 9 — Last Post July 7, 2008 11:03pm by ChandraMoon

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( sarah J )

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My boyfriend of 7 and a half months says he is probably the last person who waiting til marriage stil actually matters to,

however he also said that he would reconsider and hate me for it if this was a deal breaker.

I am slightly confused about this and what his views actually are. can someone explain this to me. Was he just being funny or was he serious etc when he said hed reconsider and hate me.

11:35 pm on July 3, 2008 | Joined: July 2008 | Days Active: 23
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hte u because u want till wait till marrige? if i got it right u need to leave him, if i didnt im confused

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He was probably just teasing you. My best guess.

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ocdbabe

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well, maybe those were two different things. saying, he'd reconsider if it made you happy, but on a different note, if this was a deal breaker-didn't do it you two are over-then he'd be angry because he did it to make you happy, but it was just sex to you.

or maybe that's just my view.

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( sarah J )

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no he actually wants to wait until marriage...

but said that if it were a deal breaker he would reconsider but hate me.

therefore im slightly confused if he was joking or serious

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NiceGuyKSU

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it's kind of funny. I poke around the teen forums a lot, and you never hear about anyone talking about waiting. But the first thing I see on the college forums is "waiting until marriage" .... sad. Little kids (I'm 21 can I call them kids yet?) need guidance.

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Johvanni

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Sara 1 you wait until marriage. If your man really cares for you he would understand your situation. He is only trying to fall in doing what every damn man like us wants to do all the time, is get in and satisfie our urges and maybe care what the female thinks afterwards. Sex is for marriage, its a sacred thing and if a woman does that she is to be respected and God Honors her. I mean for reals how many men know a days wants to lay with every woman. Everyone, well not everyone but it is like that. And some females just cant fight the urges and want it and there is some that just have more respect for themselves. Thats why we see a increase in sexual diseases among us young people.

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RainBowBow

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I think he is joking

justcurious12

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Quote: from sarah J at 11:39 pm on July 3, 2008

no he actually wants to wait until marriage...
but said that if it were a deal breaker he would reconsider but hate me.
therefore im slightly confused if he was joking or serious

Of course he'd hate you.If you decided to pressure him into doing it, and he did it, why would he feel good about it?
He would surely regret going back on his decision to remain pure until marriage.

You need to support him or leave him. Just don't corrupt him. Virgins are rare these days.

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ChandraMoon

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Half of you aren't reading her post right.

It sounds like he was joking, but it's very weird. You should definitely ask him about it, because it sounds kind of mean. Just because you have different views on sex is no reason for him to "hate you." You are NOT pressuring him into having sex. You just want to express your love for him and satisfy your physical needs, and if he isn't in the same place as you, it could very well be a deal breaker, and I wouldn't blame you. If you can respect his wish to wait until marriage he should accept your need for a loving relationship that includes sex.

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