First of all, let me just say that it's great of you for listening. So many people distance themselves from their families because they feel like they don't want to get involved in helping depression. It's not a good thing. She needs you, whether or not she acts like it. I think the best thing to do for your is be there for her. Come into her room and talk to her, about whatever. Mention your own stress. See if you two can relate to each other.
It may be that she completely closes up to you, and acts like everything is fine. THat may happen because she is shy about opening up to you and describing what she is feeling and how she is hurting. If that happens, your family and you may have to do some detective work. I don't mean spying, anything like that. Just watch her relations with her friends. Look at her grades from school. Try and work out the source for this stress.
If she does open up to you, she'll most likely say that you can't help. But that's not true. You can tell her to snap a rubberband on her wrist when she feels like cutting. That is a common way to evade actually hurting yourself. While it may not be a long term solution, it's a good way to ease into stopping. Teach her to channel her emotions into other things--art, music, just plain crying. Talk to her A LOT. Let her vent, pour things out to you. You're her big sister, somebody who can always be there for her, and she needs that.
PM me if you want more advice.
786 users online 
221776 members 
You have 1 new message.
Patron
Ad Free
Sustainer
