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I see no capabilities, ergo theres nothing to doubt. You said you became another teen statistic and you said it best. You will most likely become one, if you go to college (which hopefully you do) it won't be the one your thinking of...most likely a run down one. The fact your baby's daddy doesn't have a job is disturbing imo anyway unless he just lost it recently anyway. Don't think im not wanting everything to work out for you im just simply stating what happens to most people. The people that form the statistic, the statistic that you just reinforced.

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You can't see shit over the internet, ergo you don't assume like a moron. I will go to a COMMUNITY COLLEGE, I will transfer to a better one, I will be fine, I just have to work my ass of. I am willing to do that.

Ugh, you idiot, he has a job, he makes 13/hr right now, and free health benifits, which will cover the baby too. It's just a job he doesn't want for the rest of his life.

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Quote: from maceyface at 1:07 am on Nov. 18, 2008

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No responsibility would fall on her because I would choose to abort.

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 be rational.

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If you don't fucking stop I am going to report you. i don't like you. You don't like me, fine I get it. But don't go quoting me from the past, when I already got on fucking birth control, I already tried to prevent this. It isn't all my fault, and I am trying to do the fucking best I can right now. I don't need you, or anyone else talking out of their ass.

I can't abort it. I fucking can't, I will kill myself if I do, I don't even care how that sounds, but I will.

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Quote: from maceyface at 1:07 am on Nov. 18, 2008

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Quote: from xsharpi

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No responsibility would fall on her because I would choose to abort.

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 be rational.

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If you don't fucking stop I am going to report you. i don't like you. You don't like me, fine I get it. But don't go quoting me from the past, when I already got on fucking birth control, I already tried to prevent this. It isn't all my fault, and I am trying to do the fucking best I can right now. I don't need you, or anyone else talking out of their ass.

I can't abort it. I fucking can't, I will kill myself if I do, I don't even care how that sounds, but I will.

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well then you're pretty god damn unstable in the first place dude. just think about it.

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well then you're pretty god damn unstable in the first place dude. just think about it.

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I don't really fucking care. i have been this way for as long as I can remember, I deal with it, and take care of my responsibilities. I am trying to do the best that I can, and more. I am saving money, quiting my bullshit, and pulling myself together.

Not one person I know who have had their kid this young has regretted it. Not one person. I can't do something I will regret, it will kill me.

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I can't abort it. I fucking can't, I will kill myself if I do

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How about you list 5 benefits of aborting, and 5 benefits of not aborting. That would be a good start to being rational here. Filter out any toxic thoughts that may lead you into making an irrational decision. Once you have that list, you can go from there.

Maybe you want this baby just for the sake of adding meaning to your life? Maybe your life thus far has been meaningless and empty, and now that you finally have a crisis you are finally realizing this. I don't think the only option is to kill yourself if you abort... those are just your irrational thoughts talking. THere are many positive changes you can make in your life and you know it.

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I can't abort it. I fucking can't, I will kill myself if I do

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How about you list 5 benefits of aborting, and 5 benefits of not aborting. That would be a good start to being rational here. Filter out any toxic thoughts that may lead you into making an irrational decision. Once you have that list, you can go from there.  

Maybe you want this baby just for the sake of adding meaning to your life? Maybe your life thus far has been meaningless and empty, and now that you finally have a crisis you are finally realizing this. I don't think the only option is to kill yourself if you abort... those are just your irrational thoughts talking. THere are many positive changes you can make in your life and you know it.

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I am asking for a different kind of advice then why I am getting. i know what i can't do, and I know what I am doing. I am keeping it. There is nothing else to discuss on the matter, I still haven't got one good piece of advice on how to do that.

I don't want this baby. I don't need "meaning" in my life. It's not in my grand plans, but it came up, and now I am definetly taking responsibility of it. I can't abort this baby, because for the rest of my life I will know what I have done. It will physically and mentally ruin me. I can't go through with it. I can't even talk about it, it makes me sick. I am not against abortions, I just can't do it myself.


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I can't. I can't do it, I feel horrible for even thinking about it, but that was my plan! It really was and then...

Ugh all my plans are down the toilet and now I am just confused.

My mom had me when she was 16 turning 17... which is why she will be pissed.

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you've only just found out about it though, of course you're going to go through all the emotions under the sun until you just sit down and calmly think about it, and trust me that wont happen for another week of stressing, at least.

and of course your mum is going to be pissed, but she knows exactly what you're going through! she will be able to give you advice on the things you're feeling probably more than what anyone on Livewire can. and i'm sure if you wanted an abortion, or to give it up for adoption, or even keep it she will support you throughout every decision.

maybe try talking to a counselor? or someone specialized in this area if you aren't happy with the responses you're getting on here (god knows some idiots have no respect for others on here).

if i were you, i'd stress out for another day or two and cry it out and then i'd sit down with the father and just think about all 3 options, and what will happen if i do them/don't do them and see which one is best, and look up all things involving those issues, and i'd ask advice from friends family psychologists everyone i possibly could so i had all possible information before i made a decision.

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Quote: from lostwitness at 1:23 am on Nov. 18, 2008

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I can't abort it. I fucking can't, I will kill myself if I do

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 How about you list 5 benefits of aborting, and 5 benefits of not aborting. That would be a good start to being rational here. Filter out any toxic thoughts that may lead you into making an irrational decision. Once you have that list, you can go from there.

 Maybe you want this baby just for the sake of adding meaning to your life? Maybe your life thus far has been meaningless and empty, and now that you finally have a crisis you are finally realizing this. I don't think the only option is to kill yourself if you abort... those are just your irrational thoughts talking. THere are many positive changes you can make in your life and you know it.

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I am asking for a different kind of advice then why I am getting. i know what i can't do, and I know what I am doing. I am keeping it. There is nothing else to discuss on the matter, I still haven't got one good piece of advice on how to do that.

I don't want this baby. I don't need "meaning" in my life. It's not in my grand plans, but it came up, and now I am definetly taking responsibility of it. I can't abort this baby, because for the rest of my life I will know what I have done. It will physically and mentally ruin me. I can't go through with it. I can't even talk about it, it makes me sick. I am not against abortions, I just can't do it myself.

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You weren't clear on that. That's fine if you choose to keep it. I thought you were still indecisive if you wanted to keep it or not.

So I stick by my advice in the second paragraph on page 1:

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If you decide to have the baby you'll just have to talk to your mom from the heart and be genuinely honest and open. Then work hard with the people around you to make it work. There is no need to be overwhelmed (easier said than done I know) -- you just have to accept you are in a difficult situation and make the best decision you possibly can and LIVE with it... don't fight with what is.

Good luck.

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you've only just found out about it though, of course you're going to go through all the emotions under the sun until you just sit down and calmly think about it, and trust me that wont happen for another week of stressing, at least.

and of course your mum is going to be pissed, but she knows exactly what you're going through! she will be able to give you advice on the things you're feeling probably more than what anyone on Livewire can. and i'm sure if you wanted an abortion, or to give it up for adoption, or even keep it she will support you throughout every decision.

maybe try talking to a counselor? or someone specialized in this area if you aren't happy with the responses you're getting on here (god knows some idiots have no respect for others on here).

if i were you, i'd stress out for another day or two and cry it out and then i'd sit down with the father and just think about all 3 options, and what will happen if i do them/don't do them and see which one is best, and look up all things involving those issues, and i'd ask advice from friends family psychologists everyone i possibly could so i had all possible information before i made a decision.

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Haha, I am one of those... hard-headed fucks. No one under the sun could possibly chane my mind, and everyone keeps telling me their own opinions, none of which are helping. Honestly? I don't like any of the options. I will never like any of the options. Abortion... I just can't. Adoptions, aren't as nice and jolly as they seem. Keeping it, well like I said... wasn't exactly in my "grand plans", but I am TRYING to figure out how to fit it in there.

Which is the advice I am now asking for. How do you do that? I am asking for real-life advice, not bullshit thoughts (not talking about you :P, but other fucks) like things that will help me.

What is the budget going to look like? I won't need a babysitter, already will have one.

What should my diet look like?

What should I be worried about, what should I look to try and do before the baby comes?

How am I going to break it to the people I love that I disappointed them, yet again?

Shit like this. Not "well you can give it up, or abort it".

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What should my diet look like?  

What should I be worried about, what should I look to try and do before the baby comes?  

How am I going to break it to the people I love that I disappointed them, yet again?  

Shit like this. Not "well you can give it up, or abort it".

I really think you need to speak to your mum. She will be able to help with all these questions! She has been through the exact same thing herself. You could also try googling for pregnancy forums.

Post edited at 12:44 am on Nov. 18, 2008 by 0h h3ll n0

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I really think you need to speak to your mum. She will be able to help with all these questions! She has been through the exact same thing herself. You could also try googling for pregnancy forums.

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I agree, but I don't know how to tell her. God this reminds me of when i was 12, and I was too nervous to tell my mom I got my period , except I just don't feel dirty now, I feel dirty, worthless, and dirt instead.

I can't disappoint her again. I am horrible...

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Quote: from 0h h3ll n0 at 1:43 am on Nov. 18, 2008

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I really think you need to speak to your mum. She will be able to help with all these questions! She has been through the exact same thing herself. You could also try googling for pregnancy forums.

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I agree, but I don't know how to tell her. God this reminds me of when i was 12, and I was too nervous to tell my mom I got my period , except I just don't feel dirty now, I feel dirty, worthless, and dirt instead.

I can't disappoint her again. I am horrible...

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What is the budget going to look like? I won't need a babysitter, already will have one.

What should my diet look like?

What should I be worried about, what should I look to try and do before the baby comes?

How am I going to break it to the people I love that I disappointed them, yet again?

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Unfortunately most people won't be able to help you with these questions on this forum. That is why it is important to start researching and reading as much as you can... ask for support... look for resources in your community etc.

I'll provide you with some great links that will answer the questions you listed...

Great discussion on budgeting for pregnancy, check out their responses:
http://community.stretcher.com/forums/t/7720.aspx
And an article on it:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/445265/pregnancy_budget_for_new_parentstobe.html?cat=25

It is possible that you may be able to get special funding for the pregnancy since you are a teen mom. There are government programs set-up for people like you. Find out how to be a part of them!

Diet

Again, research this on your own. In the end you'll be the one buying and eating the food and supplements.

Here are some helpful links:
http://www.babycenter.ca/pregnancy/nutrition/diethealthypregnancy/
(EDITED - Previous link was wrong )

HIGHLY RECOMENDED
http://www.curezone.com/forums/f.asp?f=100060
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Curezone is an excellent source of information to be healthy, especially during pregnancy! I HIGHLY suggest you read through the topics and resources there.

Anyways if you want specific answer on a specific topic feel free to ask... seems like you are heading in a good direction if you can continue to ask rational questions, and seek answers to them. I think in the end once all is said and done you'll be very happy actually. Congrats.

Post edited at 1:02 am on Nov. 18, 2008 by lostwitness

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Haha, I am one of those... hard-headed fucks. No one under the sun could possibly chane my mind, and everyone keeps telling me their own opinions, none of which are helping. Honestly? I don't like any of the options. I will never like any of the options. Abortion... I just can't. Adoptions, aren't as nice and jolly as they seem. Keeping it, well like I said... wasn't exactly in my "grand plans", but I am TRYING to figure out how to fit it in there.

Which is the advice I am now asking for. How do you do that? I am asking for real-life advice, not bullshit thoughts (not talking about you :P, but other fucks) like things that will help me.

What is the budget going to look like? I won't need a babysitter, already will have one.

What should my diet look like?

What should I be worried about, what should I look to try and do before the baby comes?

How am I going to break it to the people I love that I disappointed them, yet again?

Shit like this. Not "well you can give it up, or abort it".

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hmm i get what you're saying, peoples opinions only go so far and i agree with you when you say all options suck dick.

ok so i have no personal experience in the issue but i know people who have gone through it poorly and others who've done really well. so lets assume you'll keep the baby.

so first question i'd ask is will you stay at school?
i strongly strongly advise you stay at school, and so does your boyfriend, because if you don't you will regret it, as it will just get harder later on. some people think it will be easier to just go back later but they hardly ever end up going back.
of course when you reach around 8 months you'd have a month or two off school, but the school could just send you work home, and you could ask friends for help and such.
after you have the baby you should go back to school and catch up with anything and everything, while someone looks after the baby (already said you had a babysitter?) so that will take care of that, and of course when you both finish school you should go to college/university (not sure what you do over there).

next is the budget, i'm not sure if you get a baby-bonus over there? i know over here it's about $4000. if you do you should keep that money in an account and only use it for baby needs, like clothes food bed pram etc.
if you don't get a baby-bonus then that makes things harder, for the first 8 months it's usually advised that the mother spend as much time with the baby as possible so i probably suggest your boyfriend getting a part time job just to cover expenses like food and such.

diet for whom? the baby or yourself? before or after birth?

there are a lot of things to worry about, and in saying that you really shouldn't worry too much, just take the necessary precautions.

and don't say you've disappointed people, it's not your fault you're pregnant, and they will only be shocked, but they will accept it and you will just become a stronger person by going through this.

and i'm only assuming a lot of your personal circumstances, sorry if i got any wrong.

hope i helped :)

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xsharpi, you are responsible for the advice you have gotten. Your post was very manic and emotional and wasn't decisive... the questions you are asking there are very good questions and it tells me that you are mature enough to handle this if you are able to stay grounded and mature. You are now responsible for a baby! That is pretty freaking significant!

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What is the budget going to look like? I won't need a babysitter, already will have one.

What should my diet look like?

What should I be worried about, what should I look to try and do before the baby comes?

How am I going to break it to the people I love that I disappointed them, yet again?

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Unfortunately most people won't be able to help you with these questions on this forum. That is why it is important to start researching and reading as much as you can... ask for support... look for resources in your community etc.

I'll provide you with some great links that will answer the questions you listed...

Great discussion on budgeting for pregnancy, check out their responses:
http://community.stretcher.com/forums/t/7720.aspx
And an article on it:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/445265/pregnancy_budget_for_new_parentstobe.html?cat=25

It is possible that you may be able to get special funding for the pregnancy since you are a teen mom. There are government programs set-up for people like you. Find out how to be a part of them!

 
Diet

Again, research this on your own. In the end you'll be the one buying and eating the food and supplements.

Here are some helpful links:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/445265/pregnancy_budget_for_new_parentstobe.html?cat=25

 
HIGHLY RECOMENDED
http://www.curezone.com/forums/f.asp?f=100060
^
Curezone is an excellent source of information to be healthy, especially during pregnancy! I HIGHLY suggest you read through the topics and resources there.

 
Anyways if you want specific answer on a specific topic feel free to ask... seems like you are heading in a good direction if you can continue to ask rational questions, and seek answers to them. I think in the end once all is said and done you'll be very happy actually. Congrats.

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Yes, I was expressing how I was feeling, but I clearly said I want to have the abortion, but I know I can't. Excuse me, my jumbled thoughts have spewed onto the fourm. I apologize, and I meant nothing against you, and the few others who actually fucking gave decent, rather then cruel advice.

I actually know a lot of people on this site WOULD be able to help, seeing how A LOT of teens have kids.

Thank you for this fantastic advice. The best i could have asked for.

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