It says nothing about YOU, YOUR LOOKS, YOUR PERSONALITY, YOUR LIFE, YOUR TALENTS, YOUR HEALTH, or ANYTHING in your life.

If you took the time that you devote to worrying about your weight every day and started 'measuring' your
* positive traits,
* your talents
....
Recording your
* Goals in life (2 year goal, 5 year goal, 10 year goal)
* Dreams
...
Started improving your health
* Yoga
* Balanced meals
* Sleep well
* Drink lots and lots of water (With a pinch of sea salt for the minerals and a little bit of lemon for the liver)
...
And mental health
* Talk to a counselor
* Smile & Laugh
...
Social health
* Make new friends
* Volunteer
* Participate in activities you love or always wanted to try

If you did any of the above instead of thinking about a 'number'... obsessing over a 'number'...

Your quality of life would improve so much...

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Nuf said.

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It's a whole lot easier said than done.

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One thing at a time. It's challenging to change things, but by no means hard.

Just by spending 10 seconds listing some positive traits about yourself is a success in and of itself.

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well see its that hard for girls  well me i want to gain weight and let me tell you it is so hard

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The same applies to you. The weight gain (or simple acceptance that the number on a scale isn't similar to the dudes next to you) will follow by changing who you are.

Your outer tends to be a reflection of who you are inside. By focusing on the outside, you never really see any long-term changes on the outside because that isn't where the problem lies.

The real problem is deeper. Unwillingness to accept what is (a number on a scale), lack of motivation and drive (due to lack of solid goals and dreams), and so much more. Get to the root of the problem and eventually the weight 'problem' (which you will discover wasn't really a problem at all, but rather a symptom or coping mechanism for a deeper set of dysfunctions) will go away.

Post edited at 10:36 pm on Nov. 16, 2008 by lostwitness

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Some people can't name positive things about themselves.

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Of course they can, they just don't believe it.

If you repeat something enough times you will eventually believe it and it will be true about you.

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Quote: from OverTheAir at 11:48 pm on Nov. 16, 2008

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Some people can't name positive things about themselves.

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Of course they can, they just don't believe it.

If you repeat something enough times you will eventually believe it and it will be true about you.

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Erm...I can't see that working. Maybe for some, but obviously not for all.

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Quote: from lostwitness at 2:02 am on Nov. 17, 2008

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Quote: from OverTheAir at 11:48 pm on Nov. 16, 2008

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Some people can't name positive things about themselves.

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 Of course they can, they just don't believe it.  

 If you repeat something enough times you will eventually believe it and it will be true about you.

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Erm...I can't see that working. Maybe for some, but obviously not for all.

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Definitely not for all. We can agree on that.

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Its about control.
Its about the difference between wants and needs
Its about taking and rejecting
Its about the feeling- the feeling of empty and the discomfort that having the tineyest food in your stomach puts you through... sometimes it seems unbearable.

Im not saying that its right...
Im just trying to point out that its not all about the number on the scale and in most of cases there is so much more to it, the mental torment, the constant intrusive thoughts (that take alot more then 'positive thinking' to get rid of) it just seems that its all about the number. Its not.

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