Chinese, wendy's, pizza, buffet, etc... all with in a week.  There's more.

And it's just frustrating for me.  I went to the buffet, because that was something we have NOT done in forever... it was more of like a celebration since my bf had finished school.  I also had the Wendy's because I was craving beef, and had just finished my hardest exam.

The other nights?  I always say no.... And what sucks?  I'm left to find food for myself.  I came home at 10pm yesterday, coinciding with the pizza man.  It just sucks, because I'm more or less starving, and they are eating in the other room... and I actually have to cook something.

I think what makes me more angry?  Is I actually cook my OWN meals on a weekly basis.  Of course I give some to them... But?  In return, the food I get offered are things that I shouldn't eat or feel guilty eating.

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make a meal rota and take it in turns?

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Meal rotation?  We've tried that before, they don't necessarily stick up with it.  My roommate is also leaving for vacation, and my sister will be in classes at later nights.

The problem is, we don't all want to cook on our assigned nights, and that's where it falls apart.

Ever since August I've been eating crap upon crap. The only time I get a real meal is when I go home and visit my family.. otherwise it's junk like frozen food or canned stuff or Panda Express and Carl's Jr.

I don't think it's okay to begrudge your roommate and your sister about their eating habits. I mean, really. What the fuck? Get on with your life. If you don't want junk, don't eat it.

Post edited at 12:10 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 by Lewdness

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Such is the life of a college student.  

Ever since August I've been eating crap upon crap. The only time I get a real meal is when I go home and visit my family.. otherwise it's junk like frozen food or canned stuff or Panda Express and Carl's Jr.  

I don't think it's okay to begrudge your roommate and your sister about their eating habits. I mean, really. What the fuck? Get on with your life. If you don't want junk, don't eat it.

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I understand that... but at the same time, we're all overweight, and they want to lose that weight. And it gets frustrating for me... because while they can eat some of the healthier meals that I prepare from scratch, the only meals I ever get in return... are things that I ~won't~ eat. And I can't tell my sister that she can't eat the food that we share... (she's one of my roommates)

And normally, I don't care about it that much... it's once in a while. But I only named a few things. In the past two weeks, they have eaten out at least... 8-9 times. School life or not, boxed macaroni is better than two large pizzas... not to mention they were both more or less home the whole day yesterday. Again, they can eat what they want, it's jsut frustrating for me... that after being out all day, taking a final, and coming home at 10pm... the only thing that I can eat... is to cook a meal that will take 45-60 minutes.

And I guess the only other thing is? When I say, "no" to having those meals, they HAVE called me similar things like, "party pooper", or "fine, more for us!" I dunno, just frustrating. They can do what they want... I just wish it wouldn't become harder on me.  By the way... one is 28 and the other is 31 as well, if that makes a difference for you.

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Quote: from Lewdness at 12:09 pm on Dec. 18, 2008

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Such is the life of a college student.

Ever since August I've been eating crap upon crap. The only time I get a real meal is when I go home and visit my family.. otherwise it's junk like frozen food or canned stuff or Panda Express and Carl's Jr.

I don't think it's okay to begrudge your roommate and your sister about their eating habits. I mean, really. What the fuck? Get on with your life. If you don't want junk, don't eat it.

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I understand that... but at the same time, we're all overweight, and they want to lose that weight.  And it gets frustrating for me... because while they can eat some of the healthier meals that I prepare from scratch, the only meals I ever get in return... are things that I ~won't~ eat.  And I can't tell my sister that she can't eat the food that we share... (she's one of my roommates)

And normally, I don't care about it that much... it's once in a while.  But I only named a few things.  In the past two weeks, they have eaten out at least... 8-9 times.  School life or not, boxed macaroni is better than two large pizzas... not to mention they were both more or less home the whole day yesterday.  Again, they can eat what they want, it's jsut frustrating for me... that after being out all day, taking a final, and coming home at 10pm... the only thing that I can eat... is to cook a meal that will take 45-60 minutes.

And I guess the only other thing is?  When I say, "no" to having those meals, they HAVE called me similar things like, "party pooper", or "fine, more for us!"  I dunno, just frustrating.  They can do what they want... I just wish it wouldn't become harder on me. By the way... one is 28 and the other is 31 as well, if that makes a difference for you.

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No. I really still don't get what you're on about.

It seems like you're whining because your roommates never give you a nice warm meal to come home to. They aren't your parents-- regardless of their age. It's not their job to give you nice things. And it's utterly *stupid* to, regardless of what comments they may give you, give in to eating junk because they call you names. Really.

My roommates and I eat our own things and that's that. We don't go to the grocery together either. We buy our own stuff so if one of us wants to eat healthy or eat junk, it doesn't fall on the rest of us to do the same. You should try that system if all this frustrates you so much.

Making your own meal takes a lot of effort. Why do you think it's hardly done? If you want to take the time out to eat healthy, then do it. Don't rely on anyone else and then get upset because they aren't eating what you want.

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No. I really still don't get what you're on about.  

It seems like you're whining because your roommates never give you a nice warm meal to come home to. They aren't your parents-- regardless of their age. It's not their job to give you nice things. And it's utterly *stupid* to, regardless of what comments they may give you, give in to eating junk because they call you names. Really.  

My roommates and I eat our own things and that's that. We don't go to the grocery together either. We buy our own stuff so if one of us wants to eat healthy or eat junk, it doesn't fall on the rest of us to do the same. You should try that system if all this frustrates you so much.  

Making your own meal takes a lot of effort. Why do you think it's hardly done? If you want to take the time out to eat healthy, then do it. Don't rely on anyone else and then get upset because they aren't eating what you want.

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First off, I don't give in. It's the irritation that they get pissed at me for wanting to eat properly, when we all have the same goal.  Second off, my roommate is my SISTER. We share our meals, the bills, the grocery costs, etc. My other roommate, I don't care so much about her, because she doesn't eat our food quite so often.

As a sister, I can't tell my sister not to eat the food that we BOTH spend money on. I don't need a home cooked meal to come home to, but if my sister eats things I cook at home on a weekly, or biweekly basis... is it wrong to expect something similar in return? I could cook meals to last for MYSELF easily in just two days. But when you have to share it with 2-4 other people... my weekly meal drops down to two days only.

Yes, it would be all great and fine if it was just some roommate... then it's all cool. But as a sister, we do share all these things, and we both pay for them. I'm just the one that has to do all the cooking for it. Does she cook? Yes... maybe something once a month?

I don't need someone to mother me, because I can take care of myself in terms of food. However, when I'm mothering THEM, and ultimately it leads to me having to cook at 10pm at night because there are no more left overs from the meal I cooked the day before, then it gets frustrating.

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Dont be lazy, its just a excuse.

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You cant use your roommates as a excuse to not be healthy. I lived with 3 other roommates all guys and they ate the shittiest most unhealthy foods you could think of. I didnt let it bring me down, I would bring in my own healthy good foods, make sure they wouldnt eat it and cook my own food. There is no excuse as to why you cant go to the store get salad a few chicken breast and cook your own damn food.

Dont be lazy, its just a excuse.

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Again, I don't give in.  The thing is, one of those roommates is my sister, and we share the food.  I cook my own meals, and of course we share them.  A meal that would last ME alone 3-4, only lasts 1-2 days because we share it.

Over the break, it won't be so hard to go to the store and cook.  But during the school year, when I leave in the morning and come back at night, it's harder to cook a meal.  I work all of Saturday, so I put my cooking for Sundays.  But the meal only lasts two days.

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Quote: from Lewdness at 12:32 pm on Dec. 18, 2008

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No. I really still don't get what you're on about.

It seems like you're whining because your roommates never give you a nice warm meal to come home to. They aren't your parents-- regardless of their age. It's not their job to give you nice things. And it's utterly *stupid* to, regardless of what comments they may give you, give in to eating junk because they call you names. Really.

My roommates and I eat our own things and that's that. We don't go to the grocery together either. We buy our own stuff so if one of us wants to eat healthy or eat junk, it doesn't fall on the rest of us to do the same. You should try that system if all this frustrates you so much.

Making your own meal takes a lot of effort. Why do you think it's hardly done? If you want to take the time out to eat healthy, then do it. Don't rely on anyone else and then get upset because they aren't eating what you want.

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First off, I don't give in.  It's the irritation that they get pissed at me for wanting to eat properly, when we all have the same goal. Second off, my roommate is my SISTER.  We share our meals, the bills, the grocery costs, etc.  My other roommate, I don't care so much about her, because she doesn't eat our food quite so often.

As a sister, I can't tell my sister not to eat the food that we BOTH spend money on.  I don't need a home cooked meal to come home to, but if my sister eats things I cook at home on a weekly, or biweekly basis... is it wrong to expect something similar in return?  I could cook meals to last for MYSELF easily in just two days.  But when you have to share it with 2-4 other people... my weekly meal drops down to two days only.

Yes, it would be all great and fine if it was just some roommate... then it's all cool.  But as a sister, we do share all these things, and we both pay for them.  I'm just the one that has to do all the cooking for it.  Does she cook?  Yes... maybe something once a month?

I don't need someone to mother me, because I can take care of myself in terms of food.  However, when I'm mothering THEM, and ultimately it leads to me having to cook at 10pm at night because there are no more left overs from the meal I cooked the day before, then it gets frustrating.

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On some level I can understand about the issue with your sister, but on another level, she can take care of herself. If you find yourself slaving away making a meal that you will hardly even get to eat, then tell your roommates (even your sister-- tough love!) to screw off and get their own stuff. Or if you want to share, give them portions and tell them that's all because you need your own food.

This is not difficult.

That is actually one of several reasons why my roommates and I stopped going grocery shopping together. If you have that option, you should most definitely do the same.

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On some level I can understand about the issue with your sister, but on another level, she can take care of herself. If you find yourself slaving away making a meal that you will hardly even get to eat, then tell your roommates (even your sister-- tough love!) to screw off and get their own stuff. Or if you want to share, give them portions and tell them that's all because you need your own food.

This is not difficult.

That is actually one of several reasons why my roommates and I stopped going grocery shopping together. If you have that option, you should most definitely do the same.

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That's something, that as a sister, I could never do.  My sister would NEVER say the same thing, and that is a HUGE disrespect as a family member.  Ultimately, I would be ashamed if I ever told my sister she couldn't eat.  Yes, she may eat more than me, she may not make meals in return, but I couldn't say that to her.  I owe a lot to her.

And so it does make it hard... I mean, they really can eat what they want.  I am also irritated just by the fact that both of them really want to lose weight... but then they fall into these spells where their eating is horrendous.

My roommate once said, "Do you actually like cooking?" because I was doing it so often... (I find new recipes weekly to try to keep me interested, and thankfully my boyfriend joins me on Sunday's and cooks with me so it's not as bad).  But I said, "No, I hate it."  And then she said... "Well, why do you do it?"  Oh well... I'll be the first to admit I'm a lazy person, but I honestly have no interest in living on boxed meals or take out every day of my life.

I guess more than anything, and this might clear things up... it isn't a frustration with my sister and her roommate... but more a frustration with myself.  Because I want to give in, and I say no.  And so the whole time, chopping onions, I'm just conscious of the fact that there are two large pizzas in the room next door.  And because of the way we are as roommates (one sister, and the other a very good friend that my sister has had for about... 7-10 years)... it's not like that isn't my food on the other side, if that makes sense.  I try to look on the bright side... it tests my will, it makes ME stronger.. it just gets to me sometimes, especially when it's happened 4 nights in a row :(.

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 On some level I can understand about the issue with your sister, but on another level, she can take care of herself. If you find yourself slaving away making a meal that you will hardly even get to eat, then tell your roommates (even your sister-- tough love!) to screw off and get their own stuff. Or if you want to share, give them portions and tell them that's all because you need your own food.  

 This is not difficult.  

 That is actually one of several reasons why my roommates and I stopped going grocery shopping together. If you have that option, you should most definitely do the same.

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That's something, that as a sister, I could never do. My sister would NEVER say the same thing, and that is a HUGE disrespect as a family member. Ultimately, I would be ashamed if I ever told my sister she couldn't eat. Yes, she may eat more than me, she may not make meals in return, but I couldn't say that to her. I owe a lot to her.

And so it does make it hard... I mean, they really can eat what they want. I am also irritated just by the fact that both of them really want to lose weight... but then they fall into these spells where their eating is horrendous.

My roommate once said, "Do you actually like cooking?" because I was doing it so often... (I find new recipes weekly to try to keep me interested, and thankfully my boyfriend joins me on Sunday's and cooks with me so it's not as bad). But I said, "No, I hate it." And then she said... "Well, why do you do it?" Oh well... I'll be the first to admit I'm a lazy person, but I honestly have no interest in living on boxed meals or take out every day of my life.

I guess more than anything, and this might clear things up... it isn't a frustration with my sister and her roommate... but more a frustration with myself. Because I want to give in, and I say no. And so the whole time, chopping onions, I'm just conscious of the fact that there are two large pizzas in the room next door. And because of the way we are as roommates (one sister, and the other a very good friend that my sister has had for about... 7-10 years)... it's not like that isn't my food on the other side, if that makes sense. I try to look on the bright side... it tests my will, it makes ME stronger.. it just gets to me sometimes, especially when it's happened 4 nights in a row :(.

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That's actually the sort of thing that leads those massively obese people to be able to lay on their beds all day while their family keeps feeding them.

Take charge. Your refusal to give in to giving real food to them may quite possibly teach them a lesson. If it doesn't, then it doesn't-- but you need to stop bending because of familial ties.

I have a sister (a younger one at that) and I definitely wouldn't refuse her food... unless there was good reason to. She has to find her own way. And I would (albeit begrudgingly) also understand if the tables were turned.

That said, now that you've really gotten to the core of the problem, I do feel for you. But I don't take back what I said earlier.

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That's actually the sort of thing that leads those massively obese people to be able to lay on their beds all day while their family keeps feeding them.

Take charge. Your refusal to give in to giving real food to them may quite possibly teach them a lesson. If it doesn't, then it doesn't-- but you need to stop bending because of familial ties.

I have a sister (a younger one at that) and I definitely wouldn't refuse her food... unless there was good reason to. She has to find her own way. And I would (albeit begrudgingly) also understand if the tables were turned.

That said, now that you've really gotten to the core of the problem, I do feel for you. But I don't take back what I said earlier.

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She'll never be super obese.  She's overweight, but she's also active and she's very knowledgeable about health.  But there are periods of time, where it gets thrown out the window, and for about 2 weeks time, they fall into horrible eating habits.

I owe a lot to my sister.  I moved in with her after moving away from my parents.  She refused to let me split her shifts for rent pay, so in a sense, she's also paying my rent (special living conditions, so it's a bit strange).

The thought of saying no to sharing food with her, when she's really not endangering her life... it seems very rude in my opinion.  That's not something I would ever say to anyone in my family, nor a close friend.  I consider a familial tie to be a very important reason to bend and put in a bit of extra work into cooking.  It would be a disrespect to suddenly say that I want to be completely separate from her.

And more or less, at the end of the day, it's really not too much of a big deal, I just vent certain things on LW.  This isn't some big issue that controls my life or makes it 'horrible'.  It's just something that occassionally pisses me off when coming home after a long day.  It's in the food category, but it could just as easily be in the rants section.