One of my closest friends recently told me that she thinks she has a problem with eating. She hardly eats anything for breakfast and if she does she has to weigh out up to 10g of breakfast cereal, no more. She takes an some fruit to school for lunch but sometimes doesnt eat it. For dinner, she has to eat because her family eat together but she's told me the little things she does to try and eat as little as possible. She takes as little as possible but not so little that its obvious there is something wrong but sometimes she doesnt even eat it all and she just tells her mum she had a big lunch or has snacked. If she has pasta with cheese sauce she spreads the pasta around the bowl so all the cheese sauce is on the plate and not on the pasta which she eats.
It doesn't help with the fact that she swims alot, 3 times a week for 2 hours with her club and has land training on a saturday morning. There is literally no bit of fat on her, its mostly muscle but she doesnt seem to realise that the muscle isnt fat, its muscle and she cant physically lose much more on the outside. She's getting really bad back pains which is her muscle deteriorating but she wont stop.
Every tuesday morning she weighs herself as this is the only time she can get to the scales without her mum and dad noticing. She started off as 9 stone 10 roughly and wanted to get down to 9 stone. She achieved that but then wanted to get to 8 stone 6. When she got to that she wanted to be 8 stone. She is now nearly 8 stone and wants to carry on. She is absolutely petrified of putting on 1 pound of weight.
One day she came to me in Maths and broke down in tears. She hadn't been in school the two days before and she told me that it was because she had forced herself to try and eat. She hadn't eaten loads but to her it was a massive amount. It had really messed her up and she had started to panic about how much weight she must have put on. But at the same time she told me she was petrified. Petrified that she seemed to be losing control, that she couldn't stop herself from losing weight.
Two days later i persuaded her to go to the school councillor. She wanted someone with her so she took her other best friend, who had also had an eating disorder earlier this year. She told them everything and the school called in her parents. Her parents got told about everything and now she has to see her doctor and she has weekly meetings with the ED specialist.
I'm relieved that finally she has adults that know and that will try to help her but the thing is she doesn't want help. Her mum packed her a lunch for school, she didnt eat it. We keep offering, not forcing, food to her but she won't have it. I don't see how shes going to get better when she doesn't want help. If people start making her eat, and councillors start telling her to eat, shes just going to rebel and not eat. She needs to want to eat, and want to get better and at this moment in time she really does not.
I don't know what to do. I talk to her everyday asking how she is and she says she is fine when she clearly isnt.. she text me this week saying shit, ive lost 4 pounds in 2 days. then she text me like 5 minutes afterwards saying forget that text, and i was like why? and she said because im happy about it.
i just dont know how to help her.. i dont know what to say to make her realise what she is doing to herself. it just makes me feel useless.. she has all the help from the coucillor and doctor available but she doesnt want it.. all thats on her mind is losing more weight..
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