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This may be long, but I REALLY need advice for real.

*by the way, I'm almost 18 and she's 17

The other day my girlfriend called me crying, actually crying is an understatement, she was bawling to the point I thought something went extremely wrong, and she asked me to 'please come over'. So, of course I went, and she was still bawling and I couldn't even understand her when she was talking, then she showed me a pregnancy test. It was positive, the only reason I was shocked is because not only is she on birth control, but she ALWAYS makes me wear condoms AND pull out (mistakes obviously happen) when we have sex, granted we have sex all the time. To be honest, and I know it's stupid, but if I were to have kids with anyone it would definitely be her, I've been with her for 2 years, known her for 11, and I am in complete love with her...and I have a promising, well paying job for me RIGHT after high school (I know nothing is guaranteed, but it's a well off family business) and she will definitely be something brilliant one day no matter what happens of this situation. I tried calming her down and told her maybe it was wrong, and to get a test done at the doctors. So she did, and the today she got the results and they were positive, and she's in her 6th week. She called me during her lunch and she was bawling and she was all "I should have fucking known when I'm sitting hear eating a fucking pickle and peanut butter sandwich and I'll throw it up in about a half an hour" and she went home. I went to her house after school and she, once again, was bawling and she was like "my life is fucking RUINED, RUINED I mine as well just fucking kill myself it's all over...if I have a baby don't even get me started on that, if I have an abortion or give it up for adoption I'll live with the thought so I'm just offing myself, GET IT?! Offing myself" and it made me cry...because I've never seen her so serious, or suicidal in my life. She's usually always happy, funny, smart, and fun, but this REALLY fucked her up. Not only because she's pregnant, it's just that she's always made sure we were careful...she's also being really insecure, which isn't really a usual thing. She's all "I'm going to get so fat and ugly it's not even funny, and college? HAH! Try that when you've got a 10 pound bastard sucking on your tit", when she KNOWS she is gorgeous (though she's humble) and I NEVER see her shallow, so hateful (especially towards a baby), or as bad of a mouth. She's really scaring me, her parents don't know (which is for the better at the time being, they will KILL her), and only two of her best friends know. Seriously, if the school or even one more person finds out (obviously aside from you all) I'm worried she will do something. I'm thinking she's probably going to have an abortion, and even though if she decided to keep the baby I would be there for her, I support any decision she makes.

All in all, she's not acting like herself, it's really scary, she's either really mean or really nice (which I understand, but even when she's nice it's not like her usual self, it's different), has CRAZY mood swings, she's always sad...and I'm thinking it would be a terrible decision on our/her part to keep the baby...

Please advice? What the hell do I do?

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