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My girlfriend is pregnant.
Replies: 25 — Last Post Dec. 4, 2008 10:50pm by anna rachelle
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bigdutchman


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Make sure you really talk to each other about what you want to do. Have her talk to a counselor if you can't calm her down...

If I was in your situation I'd want the girl to keep it too... But with the way she's taking it it's not that simple.

That's up to you guys to figure out though. All you're gonna find here is opinions, and it's your guys' opinions that matter.

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Quote: from SomeoneSaveUs at 3:21 pm on Dec. 4, 2008
It is almost impossible to get pregnant if you take all the precautions you said every single time. It could be a false positive or the baby may not be yours.

Keyword ALMOST...it still happens. She wouldn't string me along making me think it was my baby, no matter the outcome, if that were the case.

And she went to the doctors, it was positive.

3:26 pm on Dec. 4, 2008
musicfan3


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Quote: from Flikted001 at 3:25 pm on Dec. 4, 2008
Quote: from musicfan3 at 3:19 pm on Dec. 4, 2008
Well congrats your now a father.
soon to be father.

Does it matter? The point is the baby is a living person/creature that he helped create.

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Quote: from switchfoott052 at 3:25 pm on Dec. 4, 2008
she can give it up for adoption to a couple that can't have children or she can raise it herself and you get to either help her or pay child support

To be honest, I think it's either keeping it or abortion. She's definitely pro choice and has a problem (Actual babies, rather than fetuses being aborted, not getting love or adopted upsets her) with adoption.

3:29 pm on Dec. 4, 2008
isobel


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Not that much you can do now. Just be there for her, support her in every step of the way, whatever you both decide is best. She is in shock, she's confused, she doesn't know what to do, so not acting like herself isn't that weird given the situation. Try to calm her down and support her. Let her see it's not the end of the world, show her you're there for her and will still be there for her no matter what. It's a very delicate situation, and frankly, I've never been in that situation, so I cannot fully understand what she's going through, I can only imagine and I'd probably freak out just as much.

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the seer


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oh wow, im so sorry she is so upseat by this. she should really be glad she has someone like you, because there are not many people (that i know personaly anyway) your age who would be there for her and support whatever dicision she made. kudos on being a good boyfriend. :D

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congrats :D

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I wouldn't tell her to get an abortion. Especially with this kind of stress already on her, the guilt that can sometimes come from an abortion could be extremely overwhelming for her.

Also, the physical complications that abortions have can be dangerous for her life, too. I would not recommend getting one.

Your best bet is to go with her to talk to the family. Don't keep this hidden from her family- get their advice, talk to them first. They might be more willing to help out if they understand that you two were doing your best to be responsible and mature.

Best of luck with whatever your decision comes to man. This kind of stuff is really hard to go through.

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kevzef


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oh man i think you should talk to like a professional or a counselor, they should keep it confidential, i wish you and your gf the best of luck.
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lucky015


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Go over to her place, Hold her in your arms, and tell her everything is going to be ok, And that you love her and will be there for her for what ever she wants, Keep in mind that just because shes in a bad mood doesnt mean shes a bad person, Also remember to make sure that she knows that you DONT think shes done anything wrong or would be doing anything wrong with any decision she makes, Be there for her, Tell her how much you love her and that you want to be with her, And if she mentions suicide again tell her that that would mean you lose her and you never want that to happen, Good luck dude...
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anna rachelle


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A baby is such a beautiful thing,
I'm serious. Whatever you do,
Discourage her from aborting the
baby, please.
My sister was alot like that when
she got pregnant. She REALLLLLY
wanted to get an abortion and
hated her whole pregnancy.
She had the doctors number
and everything. and her stepmom
had her pretty much talked into it.
but becuase of my mom,
She didnt get it.
She was pisseddddd at my mom.

Now, the baby is three monthes old.
and my sister loves her to PIECES.
She THANKED my mom for talking
her out of it.

Her moodiness is quite normal,
they get like that. lol.

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