Ok so heres the deal,
I am currently pledging a fraternity, have been all semester. My problem is im questioning whether or not I should join and finish or not. I really love the brothers and the guys im pledging with, my 6 best friends are pledging with me including my roommate and best friend. This week is the last week of pledgeship, our hell week and as you may know its pretty rough. A little bit about what it is, calisthenics, not sleeping for the entire week unless you have an exam where they let you sleep for 5 hours. Penalty shots.. more calisthenics.. and so on. Thats just so far and apparently it gets worse as the week goes on.

the thing is I currently have mono, got the blood test and everything... I've had it for like 10 days. Hell week started monday I went monday night and participated in the activities, but was too dead so they took me home. They arent making me stay but want me to be there at night for the "event" aka hazing.

On sunday, two days ago i was feeling good for mono, not too tired and such, monday was ok, but after the event on monday night, i crashed. I now since yesterday morning have felt awful.. SO my mono is clearly getting worse..

I have finals coming up in 10 days and i really need to be healthy for those in order to do well. Now, its not just doing well for good grades, my parents gave me the ultimatum that if i do not get at least a 3.7 then they are cutting me off and making me transfer to a cheaper smaller college... because of pledgeship, my grades have suffered and right now am lucky if i have a 3.3. So I can still raise my grades but neeeed to do well on the finals and part of that is being healthy so i can prepare well for them, concentrate and such.

I really like all the guys in the house and want to join badly.

So my problem is I know i can do hell week probably... but if i do hell week, i will get sicker, be dead for the week before finals and not be able to prepare for my finals, i'd do poorly on them get like a 3.0 then be in deep shit with my parents and then id have to transfer.. my question is what should i do? should i do hell week? should I drop? should i not do hell week and try to join? (thing about this is that i feel like if i join all my pledge brothers will hate me since i didnt do the shit they had to do to join..)

what should i do? help!

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Your health and grades are more important than some stupid fraternity.

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Agreed