or how should a person change the topic if they're talking about something you can't relate?? what should that person do in that case?

this a college student

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=)Stephanie

It's really hard to have a conversation about things that you think the other person wants to hear. Making things up can make you sound superficial. Don't try to be someone your not.

If you and whoever you're talking to are at all compatible, sooner or later you'll come across a topic that you can both relate to, and that will open the door to more conversation in the future.

You could ask them about what they intend to do after college, what their long term plans are... People quite often like talking about themselves, so ask them questions about these sort of things and perhaps stuff that they enjoy doing, have done recently... things like that.

If you are doing the same degree as someone else, talking about that course could be a good way into a conversation. Find out what it is about the course that interests them and you might be able to carry on talking from there.

Perhaps another good hint is not to try to hard. Try not to appear desperate for conversation as this could put people off. Try to appear friendly and, if they talk to you, interested. Don't forget that most people struggle to find things to talk about from time to time, so don't feel you are alone in feeling awkward in social situations.

Hope this helps... good luck! =)

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