When I was thinking of the different ways this could have gone, I thought that we could either try having even more dates, or that we should break off and be friends until we find a fitting conclusion. I "thought" that since we had tried having more dates a while before, and that if we tried more dates again that I'd be in this same place a later time, that we should just go straight to breaking up in hopes that we would find out if we were "right" for each other or not.

But now... I've driven myself insane over the ways that she could handle this situation. I know that in my mind, she is my ideal partner; I would marry her if we were older and mature enough... but what if she decides otherwise? I don't mean to push any stereotypes on girls and women, but generally after a break up, females tend to be so deeply hurt that... well... the ex-boyfriend is "dead" to them.

I thought at first that we could stay friends, and I've tried tremendously to prepare my well-being for when/if she starts to date other guys, but with the way that I feel so strongly for her... I feel that I might have taken the wrong direction with our relationship. I know in my heart that if this relationship was meant to be, that she would eventually want to come back to me... but I just don't know if that will happen.

I just wish I could go back in time and beat the living hell out of myself for even CONSIDERING breaking up...

I want her back, but to ask of such a thing too soon would "play" her emotions too harshly, and I don't want to break her...

Advice is greatly appreciated.

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Else, just tell her what you just told us now. Youre not completely dead to her yet unless you wait too long, I doubt a few days is. You just need to prove to her that she is your everything.

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Does anyone think that I would jerk her emotions around by going right back to her, like, to the point that this wouldn't even matter?

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You made an honest mistake dude, you were just trying to do what's best from what you're saying. She shouldn't have a problem with that.

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But if you feel like you were wrong and you belong together, maybe you should just fix this, and not let ehr go through all the unnecessary tears.

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I'm a senior and she's a sophomore in high school together. She's had all of her friends, and mine as well, know that this has happened. They respect my decisions and they respect my intentions for this break up entirely.

How should I act towards them now that these new feelings have overcome me?

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I am considering printing this page out and letting it be a love note. Would that be a nice way to pass the message along?

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But if you feel like you were wrong and you belong together, maybe you should just fix this, and not let ehr go through all the unnecessary tears.

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I have a friend outside of my state that I share everything with. If anyone could expand upon his thoughts, and give even more, deeper light upon this situation... that would be amazing.

[00:14] EJSrocket: Tell me your opinion of this reply: "But if you feel like you were wrong and you belong together, maybe you should just fix this, and not let ehr go through all the unnecessary tears."
[00:14] ter: Because its best to walk away with what you have right now and be done with it
[00:15] ter: Because going back is like taking a gamble of double or nothing
[00:15] ter: Either you come up even better than before
[00:15] ter: Or you lose it all and you're worse off than you can imagine.
[00:15] ter: its a gamble, simple as that
[00:15] ter: I say take your experience, find another girl, and apply it there.
[00:16] ter: Seeing as you managed to already have a pretty good long term relationship, you know now how to do it even better.
[00:16] ter: You know what I mean?
[00:17] ter: But this is all my personal opinion
[00:18] EJSrocket: I'll admit that the experience could help me with other relationships, but when I could've stayed with her and given her more communication, I could've just as easily put more towards that growing experience I had with her.
[00:18] ter: Thats double or nothing
[00:18] ter: But like I said
[00:18] ter: Thats true
[00:18] ter: Are you really prepared to face the chance of falling farther than you have?
[00:18] ter: You've just fallen off a cliff
[00:18] ter: And now you have a choice
[00:18] ter: Turn around and walk away
[00:18] ter: Or risk jumping another gap to reach a ladder to bring you back up
[00:19] te: You might make the jump and be happy and fine and you'd be back up
[00:19] ter: Or you might miss, and suddenly you're falling even farther.
[00:19] ter: Is that really a risk you want to take?

I am sorry for this wall of text...

Post edited at 10:23 pm on Dec. 4, 2008 by ejsrocket

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