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extremely uncomfortable
with my obese roommate
Replies: 13 — Last Post July 18 6:58pm by RateTheRoomie
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( MeZan )


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My roommate is obese. 5'2 and 200 lbs is my estimate.  She doesnt seem to give a shit and eats really badly and just sits in front of the computer all day.
I wish she'd be healthier and at least walked around the track every day.  
Anyway, my issue is that she breathes really heavily and I can't stand it.   It's annoying and her mere presence bothers me.  I cant believe her parents dont say anything to hep her out, they probably "dont wanna bother her".
She'll probably die by age 40.

How do I tune her out?

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Perhaps she has a medical disorder, or had tried many things and sadly given up.
You shouldnt be so rude and ignorant.
anyway.
get earplugs.
or just focus on other things.

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sieeeeerra


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Buy earplugs.

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bri872002


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Ear plugs are a greatttt thing.  

You could suggest to go on walks and whatnot together.. invite her along with you and some other friends while you do active things?

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well what you have to do is stress to her that you care for her and that if she dont do something about it they you might die when your 40 that is what i did to steveo and he lost 100 pounds

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( MeZan )


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Quote: from bri872002 at 11:15 pm on Jan. 18, 2009
Ear plugs are a greatttt thing.

You could suggest to go on walks and whatnot together.. invite her along with you and some other friends while you do active things?

Thank you.

She actually just told her friend who is staying over that she wants to wake up early and walk on the track tomorrow.  I'll go with her, especially because her (also very overweight, but not enormous) friend doesnt want to wake up early.

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Quote: from AcidSilence at 11:15 pm on Jan. 18, 2009
Perhaps she has a medical disorder, or had tried many things and sadly given up.
You shouldnt be so rude and ignorant.
anyway.
get earplugs.
or just focus on other things.

Both of her parents are pretty thin, so I know there's a possibility she's ill but none that I doubt it.
Wendy's, pizza, Oreos, and Taco Cabana plus sitting around the whole day would make anyone enormous.

I am neither rude nor ignorant. I haven't said anything to her or made her uncomfortable.  She just has an uncaring attitude about it and it bothers me.

If my (pretty lazy) friend lost 20 lbs just by working out, why can't she?



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nik1


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Tough one.....I would suggest that you move.
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tigard


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You seem to have a problem with people being obese and are intollerant.
Why do you wish she'd be healthier?  Because you care about her?  It doesn't sound like that.

The only thing she does that affects you is breathes heavily.  You can't stand it.  That's your problem.  Would you feel the same way if a normal weight person who had a breathing problem breathed heavily?

"her mere presence bothers me"   That statement is all about you, not her.

You can't tune her out; it's her room as much as yours.  Do both of you a favor and move out.  I'm sure you attitude is clear to her and she deserves better.

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brokenwingsdecay 8

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You could offer to work out with her. Suggest that you two go for a walk to the grocery store and get some fresh fruit and veggies to eat during a movie night. If you actually care about her as a human being, try to help instead of making her feel bad.
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ke0564119


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ear pluga and loud music??

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bigajosep


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do work at the library so ur never in the room, or move out
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RateTheRoomie


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i had the same problem with my last roommate... he snored during his sleep and i could hear him breathing all day like darth vader ... and he was always eating.. i got me a pair of ear buds for night time and in-ear ipod headsets that blocked all the noise out to tune him out...

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