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Taking back a cheater
Replies: 12 — Last Post Jan. 13 8:15am by InnocentTears
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( hazeleyedangel )


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Let's say that your significant other of well over a year cheated on you once. They feel extremely regretful and are incredibly sorry and willing to do anything to make it up to you.

If you take them back to try and work through things, does that tell the cheater that it's okay to cheat?

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No. People make mistakes. To err is human, to forgive is divine.
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AcidSilence


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Forgive them.
If it happens a second time tho?
No way.

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Quote: from PrideAndJoy at 10:11 pm on Jan. 11, 2009
No. People make mistakes. To err is human, to forgive is divine.
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A6stringpoet


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Nah I'd say once a cheater, always a cheater. I would like to think the best in people but honestly, if you can't be strong enough to keep up your guard the first time, the second time will be too easy.

This isn't to say that a person can't learn from their mistakes, but imo, if they cheat they've cast away what is valuable in a relationship and that is true unbridled trust.

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Swami
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I don't it tells them it's 'ok' to cheat, but it tells them "if this happens again, she'll take me back."

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Not at all.

However, I'd have my suspicions about their faithfulness in the future.

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Erebus


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Take them back, but I wouldn't trust them nearly as much. If it happens again and they feel "extremely regretful" again, Don't take them back the second time. If the feeling was so bad the first time around, why go through it again, if they really cared?

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it does if you don't hold them to what they said about doing anything to make it up to you

Post edited at 10:34 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 by hithere

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Shaknbake


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Quote: from HazelEyedAngel at 10:10 pm on Jan. 11, 2009
Let's say that your significant other of well over a year cheated on you once. They feel extremely regretful and are incredibly sorry and willing to do anything to make it up to you.

How do you know what they feel? They say they're sorry, so they are sorry?

If you take them back to try and work through things, does that tell the cheater that it's okay to cheat?

Not if they think like a normal person, but I've met people, and I'm sure you have to, who seem to come to pretty stupid conclusions.

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rijames99


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I don't believe it means that, but I do believe before a couple reconsiles in that situation that they both come to understand what was lacking in the relationship that led the guy to look elsewhere.

It requires both parties to be open and take responsibility.

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MoZ


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everyone deserves a second chance - especially if they show remorse.

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InnocentTears


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I took my boyfriend back. At first you will have major trust issues, but after that things should get back to normal.
Also you will have the say in the relationship from now on which is always a bonus AND if you love someone that much it's stupid to throw it away over a simple mistake. And believe me if he's that sorry he WONT do it again.
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