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Engagement...is this weird, or no?
Replies: 11 — Last Post Feb. 11 9:03am by Chiefette
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My bf and I were talking about engagements and marriage the other night. Some question/comment was brought up, and my answer to that was:

"Men and women are completely different in their thinking. Women know that they can get engaged, and the engagement can last 2 or more years before even getting married. BUT, men think that an engagement is the actual marriage--they think that popping that question automatically means they're married..."

Anyways...so my bf asked me if I was wanting to get engaged. That he's perfectly fine with getting engaged, but he doesn't want to actually get married for another 2 years (when we graduate college).

Is that weird? For us to be talking about getting engaged? I don't want to be asked the question just because he thinks its what I want.....I want him to ask because its something we BOTH want.

5:24 pm on Jan. 8, 2009
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How long have you been together? How old are you?

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It's not weird o.O

A lot of couples talk about it, it's not just you.

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It'll fall apart before it reaches that point. Also, it's a stupid idea. Have commitment less sex, then a relationship.

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not really, unless you just met him last night and he is still in your bed.

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its not weird and how do you kno its not what he wants? just sit down and talk to him about it and ask him if hes sure bout it and if you both are then go ahead and go with it and good luck

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Quote: from blufindr at 7:24 pm on Jan. 8, 2009
How long have you been together? How old are you?

We've been together nearly 2 years.

I'm 20, he's 21.

We love each other. He's been honest with me from the start...and we're each others best friend. I honestly believe that he and I are going to last. I don't think we're going to fall apart. We've already had so many talks with each other--even on the topic of cheating. Neither of us are that type, especially not to the one we love.

5:31 pm on Jan. 8, 2009
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Quote: from Anonymous at 12:31 pm on Jan. 9, 2009
We've been together nearly 2 years.  

I'm 20, he's 21.  

We love each other. He's been honest with me from the start...and we're each others best friend. I honestly believe that he and I are going to last. I don't think we're going to fall apart. We've already had so many talks with each other--even on the topic of cheating. Neither of us are that type, especially not to the one we love.

Then go for it.

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Dont do it!!
If you guys break up, it would be more traumatic, and a bigger deal.
just wait until your older if your still together.

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OH sorry, i thought you were younger and had this page open for a really long time and didn't read the other ones.


well... i don't think you should just be like "hey, lets get engaged"

maybe he will think about it and bring it up himself?

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Quote: from AcidSilence at 7:39 pm on Jan. 8, 2009
OH sorry, i thought you were younger and had this page open for a really long time and didn't read the other ones.

 
well... i don't think you should just be like "hey, lets get engaged"

maybe he will think about it and bring it up himself?

I hope. If it ever happens, I want it to be because he thought about it and wanted it...not because I mentioned it to him. And I don't really want a "planned" engagement.

5:42 pm on Jan. 8, 2009
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You should talk about the actually act of getting engaged before you do get engaged.  You need to know each others expectations etc.  I wouldn't have accepted Mike's proposal without us talking before hand.  Let him do it when the time feels right for him.  Next time you talk about it let him  know that you are open to the idea.

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