If you had a really nasty physical disability would you risk a 50/50 chance of passing it on to your unborn child?

I wouldn't, I know what it's like living with my disability and I wouldn't wish that upon anyone. I couldn't put my parents through it all again, knowing that in the end they would have to do the majority of the up bringing.

This is her (and my) disability...
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4755365.stm

Post edited at 1:04 pm on Jan. 6, 2009 by Sunshine Buddy

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Is this something that can be tested for prenatally?  If it is I would probably consider getting pregnant, and aborting the child if it were to be positive for this disease.

What is the disease?

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It all depends on the type of illness really.

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disability has nothing to do with the relationship a parent has with her child. I feel sorry for you, all you see is jealousy and hate.

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disability has nothing to do with the relationship a parent has with her child. I feel sorry for you, all you see is jealousy and hate.

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Quote: from biSEXual at 4:02 pm on Jan. 6, 2009

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disability has nothing to do with the relationship a parent has with her child. I feel sorry for you, all you see is jealousy and hate.

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I completely disagree. Why have a child that has no quality of life? Why put a child through pain and misery if you don't have to? I see no jealous, or hate.

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I don't think the OP is jealous or hateful... however, are you saying that the OP has no quality of life?

It depends on the person.  Personally, I would never abort a child because they were to have a disability.  Quality of life... you can have the highest quality of life and have a disability all your life.  For me (key word is for me), to abort a child because of the disability would sound more like I didn't want to deal with it, that I didn't think it was just as much human has a 'normal' child.

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I can't say what I would do, because until I experienced the disability, I wouldn't know whether or not I would risk passing it on or not.  I would enter a dilemma... because I want so badly to have children of my own, and I would lead myself into a loop on whether or not it is selfish to have a child... that I would love and support, disability or not.

However... I wouldn't do so in a case where my parents would be the primary support for my child.  It would be me... The main reason here... that I would not have the child is because you said it could kill her or the baby... and that is not something that I would want to risk for either of us.

It's really hard to say... it's easy to say, no or yes... but until you've reached that point, it's hard to say.

I don't know your friend... but maybe she used protection properly... this disability isn't going to go away, right?  Should she not have sex her entire life because of it?  It's a hard border line to put in...  I don't know, I have mixed feelings, and without much knowledge about your friend or the disability, I don't have much to go off of.

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No matter how much I would want a child, I would not want my child to have to deal with such a disease. I would rather adopt.

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