This certainly seems like a tough situation. And of course it would be. Teen pregnancy is difficult too deal with for so many different reasons. I'll try and offer the best advice I can on this situation.

You do have options. The options you has are; 1. Keeping your baby, 2. Adoption and 3. Abortion.

1. Keeping the baby involves a lot of responsibilities. Staying up at night, not being about to go out much with friends, changing nappies, night feeds and then of course the expenses. Having a baby can be very expensive. I doubt you would be able to support a child financially at 14 years old. What about school? Because if so you would need to think will you and your boyfriend be able too handle a child and go to school/college/work at the same time. So as I have said, having a baby involves a lot of responsibilities. You must really think about keeping your baby.

2. Adoption. Another option you have. You have read about the responsibilities up above. If you feel like you can't or won't be able too handle these, adoption is probably a much better option for you. Your baby will be given too someone who will be able too deal with these responsibilities. That way you would be able to get on with your adolescence.

3. Abortion. The last and final option you have. I'm sure you know what this involves. Getting rid of your baby all together. It can be an emotional and painful experience and may not what you want. Think about this before you go through with it.

Its important for you and your boyfriend to talk to both of your parents. They need to know what is going on and its best not to keep this a secret. They are your parents and will always love you no matter what happens. At first they may be upset/shocked/annoyed but they will be able to get through this together.

Go to your doctor as soon as you can and they will be able to help you decide what the best option for you is.

I hope that helps you out a bit. If you would like to talk, message me anytime. Good luck!

I just read your post about being 14 and pregnant.

First, just know you arent alone. I was pregnant with my daughter at 16.

There are alot of decisions you must now make for the future of yourself, and your child. I suggest you speak with your parents/guardian/someone about your situation. Informing the child's father doesn't hurt either. He may be willing to help you through this.

There ARE agencies that WILL help teenage moms! Although I live in Canada, and subsiquentialy affiliate myself with Canadian organizations, Im quite confident the US has some similar programs.

Try looking up the Terra Association, they may operate in the united states.

Best of luck to your, you child, and your bf.

Sat Nam

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Sat Nam (Truth is our Identity)

One of the largest concerns is how you're going to financially support a child. A lot of people will try and scare you with costs, but from one low-income mum to another, it's still a lot of money. At the very least, just for the baby you're looking at around $400/month.  That's not including medical costs or 'extras.' You should look into getting on WIC and/or maybe welfare, to help cover the costs as I doubt you're working or going to work and I doubt that your boyfriend can support this child completely on his own.

The best piece of advice other then that I can give is to educate yourself on as many pregnancy and parenting related topics as you can. The more informed you are, the easier things go and the better choices you'll make for yourself and your child. There's a lot of confusing, complex parenting issues that you're going to have to tackle and an educated decision is always the best policy. The best website I can recommend for that is http://www.babycenter.com

:-) Good luck hun.

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Holly.
Mama to Hunter Kai
Still missing you, LML. (1941-2007). ♥
"Nothing is worth more than this day."

You need to tell your parents though.  I would however decide what your intentions are before you tell your parents.  That way it works out to what you want, not what your parents want.  You are less likely to be swayed if you already have your mind set.

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