Either ask a girl to go somewhere with you and just talk on your own, or straight up ask someone out, it's the only way it's going to happen!

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omg you may think weed is not addictive but it is for a poor of a person as me that can't buy luxuries that mid class ppl do

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Right, I'll suggest for a start that there are many people in your financial position - you're not at a tactical disadvantage for not being able to buy anything you want at a whim.

Girls/women are attracted to attitude. Some may well like money, but please credit us with more than that - we're not all gold diggers, you know.

Weed is not physically addictive, but it sounds like you're psychologically dependant on it, which isn't helping you. We all need something to depend on, but you're filling too much of your time with weed. Cut down on it and try to find something else to fill your time with. I'd suggest actively going out so that you increase your chances of finding a girl.

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and i didnt include that i do a lot of ecstasy shrrooms and weed

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I'd venture that E is good for finding a girl, as it's a sociable drug. But what you want to do with that information is up to you.

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AND FUCK YES I KNOW I NEED TO GET LAID you're obviously not the first to tell me that

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I recognise the state of wanting something so much you sabotage the very thing you're trying to get. It may not be easy, but I'd suggest you try to put the sex thing out of your mind as much as possible - if you're preoccupied with other things, what you want will come to you naturally.

Put yourself in social situations where there are girls and seek to build friendships with them. However much you want sex, females are still complex human beings who can be good friends, so make sure you cultivate some.

Once you have a particular female friend you want to take things further with, then you'll be on the home run to getting the sex life you crave.

Good luck.

P.S. If you feel a lack of self-esteem, then fake confidence. I know, I know: it's hard to do that. But I'm not particularly confident and I'm faking it all the time. Most people around me think I'm extremely confident. Just turn it into a game: see if you can trick others into believing you are confident. No need to be all loud and brassy; just quietly go and do stuff like talking to new people, going somewhere different, take the initiative etc. with no frills and everyone'll think you're confident.

Works a charm for me.

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Post edited at 1:32 am on Jan. 8, 2009 by Tubbz

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The world isn't going to change to fit around your lack of confidence, so you're the one who has to work at it. I don't mean that to sound harsh, but if you want a direct comment on the situation then that's mine.

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yes i know what you're talking about satine about ecstasy being sociable and of course ive talked to manyyyyyy girls when im on E but never got with them and i of course can not think about sex obviously since i have never had sex to get addictted to it but my male hormones make me go crazyyy all i can do is just start at all the fine women that i see

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You don't have to have sex to be addicted to it. It's not something you want to get addicted to either, it can be a dangerous addiction.

Just talk to a girl. Take her off somewhere and talk to her, even if you're not attracted to her.

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- when you're talking to a girl, make plenty of eye contact with her (different to staring, but make sure you're regularly looking in her eyes - it's better communication and suggests you're confident).

- Suggest to her that you both meet again because you enjoyed talking to her.

- Give her the opportunity to speak more than listen by asking open questions. Offer a bit of information about yourself, but keep it at a ratio of about 3:1. This takes the pressure off you and leaves a feeling of mystery about you.

- As for breaking the physical barrier, touch her hand or arm when you're talking to her.

- Remember that there's a strong culture of 'good girls don't', which means that we feel a bit of an incentive not to have sex. However, we do still want to. If you hint at wanting to sleep with a girl and she says, 'I'm not sure', that's her saying, 'I want to but feel that it would be bad of me'. This is your cue to kiss her / whatever else is apt so that you're taking the lead.

Needless to say, 'no' means no and should be honoured. You might get a yes from some uninhibited girls, but the above might be quite common.

An extra tip for that is that, you could get another clue if you start to remove a girl's clothes (say, take off a scarf or undo one button on her top) and then stop. If she doesn't adjust it again for modesty then you know you can try to go a bit further.

Maybe Tubbz can offer more clues, but that's about all I've got as a straight female!

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