I'm your typical single teenage girl, I like going to parties and if I'm there, then there is a chance I will get with someone if I want to. I'm no slag, its just making out for that night, a bit of fun. People always ask me for advice about how to get guys because I seem to be able to do it so well, but the thing is although I seem so confident I'm actually really shy. I worry a lot about what people think, I'm bad at letting people get close to me and that's probably why, although I've got with lots of people, I've only had 4 boyfriends.

So anyway there is a guy, who I've known for years, so it was almost easy to open myself up to him and I admit I like him and I thought the feelings were mutual. The problem is he's just got out of an 18 month relationship so we said we'd keep it quiet for a bit so it didn't seem like he'd just moved straight on to the next thing he saw. But then I was at his house yesterday and he says to me "what are your feelings for me" I replied saying "isn't it obvious? I like you" then, getting slightly worried I asked him the same question. His response is what's had me feeling like a fool, "well.. when someone says they likes you you can't help but like them back right? But I know I'm not ready for anything just yet, so we're keeping it quiet".

Maybe its just me being paranoid, but it felt to me like that was his way of saying he wanted nothing but a bit of fun and I'm just there because I like him so that's what he can get. But then I think about the person I know he is, he's not like that, I know he's not. But then why would he say that, which sounds so much like just wanting some fun, if he actually wanted a relationship with me?

I always said I would never be one of those people who just ends up being used, but that's what it feels like I'm becoming.

However the red flags will go up if he is solely physical, but continuing to say to keep it on the DL. If he isn't rushing into the relationship, taking it slow both emotionally and physically I guarantee you he is not using you.

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Keep your guard up, you should be anyways since you're aware that he just got out of a long relationship. Chances are, he likes you but he's not over his last relationship so he can't just jump into liking you the same way you like him.