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i just wanna make him proud.[please help I cant take much more]
Replies: 8 — Last Post Jan. 7 4:46pm by Sety
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Thats all I have ever wanted to hear my dad say hes proud of me. Yet no matter what I do I cant get it. I make straight A's, I'm on various teams and won various awards. I work so hard so I can be someone, someone accomplished and successful. My dad is very emotionally/mentally abusive to me. And sometimes physically. Today all i did was tell him I couldn't walk outside to dump the cat box cause the muscles in my legs are hurting so bad. Its hard for me to even walk. So what does my dad do? He takes my phone, he yells/cusses me out, and tells me that i better not go to bed cause he will turn my alarm off so ill miss school[i have perfect attendance and don't wanna fall behind]. I swear he is gonna be the reason I kill myself. Why does it have to be so hard? I mean my mom doesn't tell me either but at least she comes to some of my stuff. I don't even think he is making plans on coming to my graduation.        
4:35 pm on Jan. 7, 2009
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Wow I am sorry you have to go through all of that. Just hold on for now. And maybe you should see a psychiatrist or therapist or something. No one should have to deal with all of that.
And you should be proud of everything that you have done! I know that getting praise from someone else feels good, but look at all this you have done! That is great!

Post edited at 4:37 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 by asia lover

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Its really, really hard to have something like this going on.
But you need to accept no matter what great things you do, he may never accept or praise you.
But you should be proud of what you have achieved, they are good things!
I think in a way, he may be jealous of you.
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Honestly, screw him. You've done everything amazingly. If he's not proud of you, then don't try to earn his pride. He's the type to never accept.

Talk to your mom about it, tell her that you want to know if they're proud of you.

And...here's an abuse hotline if you ever need it: 1-800-656-HOPE

PM me if you need to talk.

Post edited at 4:39 pm on Jan. 7, 2009 by noraa

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And tbh, i dont think he deserves someone like you as his kid :)
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I'm sorry that he is abusive to you, and that you can never make him proud. My father is the same way. He hits me a lot and tells me what a worthless piece of shit I am, but you know what? I've learned not to take notice of his expectations. Do what makes YOU proud. Do what makes YOU feel good, because in the end, he doesn't matter. YOU matter. It's YOUR life, not his. Don't just do something because he MIGHT approve. Do what makes you happy. You work hard, and so you achieve well, great. Be proud of yourself. No one can take your self-pride away.

Message me if you like. I'll listen.

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Im sry =(
My dads in rehab...

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Its hard to go through but just hold on and honestly what he thinks of you doesn't matter, you try your best and it sounds like you're succeeding. You don't have to earn his approval, he's the one missing out on your accomplishments. PM me if you ever want to talk. good luck
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Sety


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my dad is an ass like that too
i feel you....
sounds a lot like me
the whole good grades things and stuff but my dad is always proud of me which isnt a good thing since he shoves it in my sisters faces so now they hate me
anyway
maybe your like me and u cant help but defend yourself
to get him to shut up faster just take it all in
he will feel like he is talking to himself and scurry off

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