I don't know how to bring this up. We're friends, but not intimate friends. We get fucked up together, we paint together.

I went through an anorexic stage (alright, many of them) but even at my thinnest I wasn't like this. She misses classes all the time because she's sick and always catching cold. She does a lot of opiates and (we're in college together) studies death rituals. I really worry that this is a slow dance she's doing towards suicide just pushing it further and further. How can I bring this up?

I know that when I'm at very low weights, I either don't want to talk to people who are worried about me at all and I lash out angrily or instead I internally take their concerns as encouragement that I'm making progress.

but how can I stand by knowing anorexia and letting her do this?

She's lost about 15 lbs this semester I would guess, and she's just losing more.

There is no good way to bring this up. You need to just be blunt, swift, and to the point. Don't cut around the bush. You need to let her see that you know what's going on, but you're here to help. You need to let her understand that you're not going anywhere until she's better. You can't stand by and watch her kill herself.

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There is beauty inside a woman who believes in herself;
who knows she is capable of anything that she puts her mind to.
who knows she can fall, pick herself up, and move on.

You can't do much, except talk to adults, like her parents.
Other than that, if she doesn't want help you can't force it on her.
It's good you're trying to be a good friend, but there isn't much you can do for someone who refuses help.
Although if she is really bad (pictures don't really say much) then you can talk to the hospital or doctors etc.

Tell her how you feel about it, and that you've been there too. Be supportive and encourage her to be healthier.

Post edited at 2:41 am on Dec. 30, 2008 by Hi Sarah

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Wow she is like nearly as skinny as my friend who was hospitalized.

You can't do much, except talk to adults, like her parents.
Other than that, if she doesn't want help you can't force it on her.
It's good you're trying to be a good friend, but there isn't much you can do for someone who refuses help.
Although if she is really bad (pictures don't really say much) then you can talk to the hospital or doctors etc.

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we're both adults, 20, and her parents are out of the picture. maybe if I get all her friends together though we could do some sort of intervention