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 Replies: 18 — Last Post Jan. 17 6:53am by kjm55
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As a sadomasochist and Domme (I like to give and receive pain and I like sexually submissive people), I can honestly say I believe my deviances have roots in my childhood experiences. Note I said experiences, not trauma. These experiences were repeated over periods of time, as opposed to a sudden one-time traumatic experience. The pain aspect is a direct link to my own way of dealing with emotions as exhibited first by my parents. It later developed into self-mutilation (I was 8 when I first self-mutilated). Now while the act of self-mutilation is driven by completely different feelings and circumstances, I think that it's way too much of a coincidence to be random. My enjoyment of pain and of giving pain is directly related to my unhealthy coping strategy. As a Domme, I think that also stems from childhood. Now, I don't just mean I like to be in charge during sex. My fiance and I have a 24/7 D/s relationship (Meaning, he wants me to be a Domme in all aspects of our relationship, all the time. You know, he wants me to "wear the pants." Just trust me that it's not codependency, but if you want, we can start a whole 'nother conversation about that.) The first instance where I enjoyed having control over someone was when I was in fifth grade: I made a boy beg to receive a letter from me. After that, he had to beg everytime.
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I'm a strong believer that it can be (and is in my case) a genetic cause. I've looked into my family tree, and I've found a consistent pattern of one generation child abuser, abusing the two generations below them, repeated (3 times to be specific). Lo and behold, from the age of about 5 onwards, and really kicking in at 15, I found myself attracted to younger (and younger looking) girls. Fortunately, I live in the information age, and an age where men are allowed to voice their emotions and concerns - I've placed a block on my desires, and I have government support to help me stay afloat. That's irrelevant though. I had no traumatic experiences as a child. That said, I was sexually active from the ages of 7 to 11, so I suppose that could have an impact, but like I said, I had been attracted to younger girls since before then. My parents actively oppose the attraction, for obvious reasons, so I don't think it's nurture. I dunno. Maybe I'm wrong.
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When they leave me, they're all smiles.
When they leave you, they're in tears.
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... Freud did propose it, among other things, but like I said earlier, I don't see its relevance in your post. Freud's views on fetishes having roots in past experiences have nothing to do with penis envy. ...
