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( lthomas )
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My boyfriend and i have been together for a couple months now, and we have tried to have sex 4 times. The first two, didn't work at all. The third worked, but only because we were "under the influence." And the last time we tried it didnt work. Obviously, he does not have any trouble getting hard, because he is always fine before we decide to try, but whenever it comes down to it he can't get it up. Neither of us understand the problem especially since it has worked before, but we don't want to have to be messed up everytime we have sex. help!
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you're so hot, you must be the reason for global warming
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9:50 am on Nov. 25, 2008 | Joined: Nov. 2008 | Days Active: 18
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easy
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Let it be natural, don't plan anything
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glad to meet everyone.....
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9:51 am on Nov. 25, 2008 | Joined: Mar. 2008 | Days Active: 485
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007bondgirl08
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i dunno???
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beautyskooldropout
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thats so weird,
i wonder why that happens.
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dabomb09
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I had that problem before with a guy. He said it was because he was scared and nervous. Just because you'll have been together for a while doesnt mean anything. He might be nervous about how he will perform.
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( lthomas )
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thanks everyone lol
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you're so hot, you must be the reason for global warming
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9:54 am on Nov. 25, 2008 | Joined: Nov. 2008 | Days Active: 18
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Live Just To Die
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Stop being so nervous and he will get it up fine
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It's been three weeks since I had a decent sleep,
In an empty bed with a restless head,
These thoughts are killing me so...
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spartan09
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He's probably nervous. :P Just take things easy for him or something.
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Everybody look at you 'cause you're sailing on a FAILBOAT.
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babygurl 2008
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Damn, You must be a turn off for him.
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~If you don't stand for something, You'll fall for anything~
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audibleSIN
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Get some Chinese Food.
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I'm going to regret this, but that's the point.
The circus only burns down once.
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( lthomas )
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chinese food sounds good lol
one thing i don't think people are realizing is that he actually is hard up until the very moment we decide to have sex. so i know im not a turn off lol
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audibleSIN
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I'm serious about the Chinese Food. Try it.
Apparently a lot of stories I've read involved the guy eating Rice. Weird.
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I'm going to regret this, but that's the point.
The circus only burns down once.
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( lthomas )
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that's really weird lol i'll keep that in mind
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10:02 am on Nov. 25, 2008 | Joined: Nov. 2008 | Days Active: 18
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It's not uncommon at all. nervousness about the surroundings (getting discovered, making noise...) can do it. So can concern about STDs or pregnancy. So can concern about "pleasing you"....which, when he doesn't just makes it worse in his mind the next time you try...failure is almost guaranteed then. So can concern about what this "next step" really means in the relationship...he could be worried what you are expecting next...it could be a lot of things. My recommendation: Do not say"OK, this Saturday night we are having sex." have the appropriate protections or birth control available, but don't plan it way beforehand. Tell him you don't want to have intercourse, just be naked with him.Tell him you don't expect * and don't want* him to be a porn star , just be with you. Guys want to 'perform" like a porn star and "performance anxiety" is common. Talk over some of the issues I mention above. Don't use "the problem" or "your problem", don't even refer to them as issues. Guys like to be able to fix things and presenting the issues as "issues or problems" will put up yet another wall he feels he must jump over. Just talk about stuff.
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