Do you also have the feeling people see having children as an achievement? I mean, sometime I feel people value parents more than other people in society and having children is the reason these people "get away with more things"?
I mean.. It's not something special. Everyone can do it.
Quote: from mountainview at 5:43 pm on Nov. 29, 2008
Do you also have the feeling people see having children as an achievement? I mean, sometime I feel people value parents more than other people in society and having children is the reason these people "get away with more things"?
I mean.. It's not something special. Everyone can do it.
Yes having children is an achievement, especially if you are a woman, not because it's hard to make it happen but because it's hard work despite the fact that once you set the wheels in motion (easy) the hard work is unavoidable.
Oh and not everyone can do it...
Post edited at 9:44 am on Nov. 29, 2008 by osmoticdespair
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Technically not everyone can, my aunt and uncle can't reproduce. I guess it can be an achievement because, lets face it, kids have their horrible days/years.
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Yeah.
My mum is happier about my academic achievements than she is about my trying to battle my mental health issues.
To be honest, i think that's fucked up. Sure, i get straight A's, but it feels like she wouldnt love me if i started failing
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r u gay??
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In my opinion, it's more the recognition that any injury to the parent is passed down to the child in some form.
So we give them extra money to raise their brood, and extra breaks because children are demanding little shits who don't make life easy.
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um the child that i had 2 years ago was not a achievement it had down syndrome because i was on meds that say dont get prego but whatever
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Quote: from sadnessness at 5:44 pm on Nov. 29, 2008
Yeah.
My mum is happier about my academic achievements than she is about my trying to battle my mental health issues.
To be honest, i think that's fucked up. Sure, i get straight A's, but it feels like she wouldnt love me if i started failing
She probably would. She probably thinks she is doing you a favour by putting this kind of pressure on you thinking it will give you a better start in life and not really understanding the stress it causes.
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Being a stockbroker is difficult too. Being a landscaper is hard work too, yet why do we put parents on pedestals but not our landscapers and stockbrokers?
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Quote: from mountainview at 5:46 pm on Nov. 29, 2008
Being a stockbroker is difficult too. Being a landscaper is hard work too, yet why do we put parents on pedestals but not our landscapers and stockbrokers?
I am pretty sure that we respect professionals as much as we do parents. But one difference is that having a child and taking care of it is work done for the child's sake. Whereas professional work is done for the sake of earning a wage and thus is ultimately selfish at heart.
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Then why do we value our volunteers less than parents? Because that's still the case...
Quote: from mountainview at 5:50 pm on Nov. 29, 2008
Then why do we value our volunteers less than parents? Because that's still the case...
Because volunteers tend to be doing menial work and people are elitist about stuff like that. Generational memories of when only servants did that sort of thing...
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Parents are negatively influencing society. Overpopulation anyone?
I just don't get why we love these people so much?
I don't see anyone treating parents any better than anyone else. Especially not teen parents.
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Do you also have the feeling people see having children as an achievement? I mean, sometime I feel people value parents more than other people in society and having children is the reason these people "get away with more things"? 
