It's called honesty. You better be the one to tell her as soon as you can, then her FIND OUT for herself later. Then she will feel as if you were hiding it and assume that you are hiding a TON of other dirty secrets. Why do you care if you hurt the woman? If you gave a flying fuck about her, then you wouldn't of cheated in the first place.
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12/27/08 What day changed your life?