To begin, the story starts with myself moving from good ol' Brooklyn, NY to a decent place in FL. Lately I've been feeling down. I wouldn't call it a depression, yet, more of a frustration as of now. Now I'm a decent looking dude, I have a few girls who liked me, whom I all turned down. Not to say I'm gay either, I certainly like the ladies.

Moving here destroyed an already bad relationship. I spent all my time with this person back in NYC, to the point of cutting every single day of school. So just about literately all the time. When I moved to live with my mom, blah blah, she gives me the same old troubles then later I find out she had sex with some dude I had issues with, not that I cared by the time I found out, but didn't make things better.

Anyway, so yeah my social skills were a bit damaged from that relationship. But, I'm also no hermit either, I'm very friendly and easy to make friends but I've never been one to hang out too much either, even though I want to. Lately I've been shelled in my house, sleeping for fun. I want to go out but I don't know anyone who I really can have a good time with. I feel like a fish out of water, I don't mesh well with most of these Floridians. Besides that, everything is damn far here. Hardly anything is in walking distance. I don't have a license so I'm lost in that department too. Back in NY I had my subway. Like they say, you don't miss a good thing till its gone.

So now I've just constantly been thinking of how little of a life I have and how much of a damn loser I've become. I was even thinking this morning, "Hrm, I can go out to meet a girl... But I'd be going alone, looking like a loser, second of all, where the hell can I go if with $10, third of all, even if I do find a girlfriend, do I ask my mother to drive me once a week to see her? I'd feel like a total loser then." Obviously you guys can't come and take me out to dinner but I thought I'd feel better venting just a bit, even if it came out as mumbles. And this is just a short sample of my story, but it gets to the point.

So basically, I'm asking for advice. I don't have many actual friends here (more so many acquaintances), no money (oh right, didn't mention that I can't find a damn job), and no transportation. So yes, frustration. I have one more year left in high school, then hopefully off to college, but I can't and refuse to be a hermit till then. Also, I need to get laid. Just thought I'd fit that in there.  
Thanks in advance!

ADVICEEE!!!!!!!!!!

Edit: Oh and I feel stupid enough posting my sob story, try not to make me feel much worse.  

Post edited at 2:06 am on July 7, 2009 by Ken01

As for your problems, the only that you really can do is to wait it out.  Which is really going to suck, but it's just going to take time to make new friends, for it to really feel like "home", and start feeling comfortable there.  

As for the whole sex thing, don't go out looking for ass, look for a person you'd like to be with, relationship or no.  Booty calls are a sort of douche bag type thing.  Money sucks for you, but you're just going to have to try to find a job, although I wonder how you'll be able to get to and from work without a car, unless you have a family member that's willing to drive you.

Uni is way better in my opinion.  I love it, and I used to hate school.  You'll just have to wait on that to come as well.  

Sorry I couldn't be of more help, I just wanted to let you know that, even if you don't get a lot of replies on here, people do read your posts.  If you post something that does come off as a bit of a rant, then a lot of people won't post, unless it's something fun for them to go on about.

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But argh, its just frustrating cause in my mind, I'm sure if I was back in NY I would be doing so much more things than just being home.

I was told by a psychiatrist I was depressed before and was suggested medication but I think she was just nuts. All I did was tell a long sob story and draw a picture of a boy and a girl (I tried to draw stick figures but she made me make it more detailed) then she was like, "Yep, you're depressed, you need meds." But I can't accept them since I'm planning to commssion in the Marine Corps. I don't know, thats why I simply think I'm just frustrated.

But input from other people always is nice, makes me feel like at least I'm not alone in my failure as a human.

Anyway, I'm going to go watch some TV and try to fall asleep. G'night.

Post edited at 2:13 am on July 7, 2009 by Ken01

Your relationship up north dissolved and you moved on, you're outgoing and sound like a pretty cool guy. Floridians don't mesh well with much so, I'm sure you seemed like something different to them. You can feel like a loser about your circumstances or you can see that pretty much any other guy is in your situation. Most teenagers do not have jobs and do not have a car, it just works that way. Here's a question: do you care if you seem like a loser to your mother? I'm hoping the answer is no because it wouldn't matter to her driving you three miles compared to cutting short your social life in school.

You honestly cannot do too too much until you feel like you're not foreign in a sea of Floridians, I hope you know that. You need to get that license, get a car and get that job if you want things to fall into place as you've laid them on the table. Having a relationship is very feasible if you put in the time into talking to those whom you interact with daily. Just be open to different ideas and you're sure to be happy in the end.

And I don't know, maybe my view of a relationship is skewed due to the very lengthy, clingy relationship i was in. Ahh, its just hard to deal. I realize my situation is my fault and I should work to change it but change is hard. :(