I just don't get it. Is there something I'm missing, or are these people as dependant and clingy as I think they are?

-------
Place your body here,
Let your skin begin to blend itself with mine.

But yeah, dont ask me why.

-------
Just another harmless tripper.

---

Its not that simple! I cant just leave! My cds are in his truck!

---

way to kill a funny dane cook reference

Post edited at 7:40 pm on July 5, 2009 by Mods1Blow2Me3Daily

-------
"tonight were just actors and this is a sitcom so tell me
you love me and tell me ill get some." - Gorilla Zoe

---

Its not that simple! I cant just leave! My cds are in his truck!

---

lol

---

Quote: from Descartes at 7:38 pm on July 5, 2009

---

Its not that simple! I cant just leave! My cds are in his truck!

---

waqy to kill a funny dane cook reference

---

---

it's a mentality thing from what i've noticed. that person has them wrapped around their fingers to the point where they cant or wont live without that person. Sometimes the people stay cause they thin the abuser will go back to who they WERE

---

I've noticed it, too, and I'm just dumbfounded. Even with GOOD relationships without any kind of abuse, people seem so goddamned clingy and dependant that it drives me nuts. They act as if they can't possibly do a thing without so-and-so by their side every second of every day.

-------
Place your body here,
Let your skin begin to blend itself with mine.

---

Quote: from SpRiNgS at 7:39 pm on July 5, 2009

---

it's a mentality thing from what i've noticed. that person has them wrapped around their fingers to the point where they cant or wont live without that person. Sometimes the people stay cause they thin the abuser will go back to who they WERE

---

I've noticed it, too, and I'm just dumbfounded. Even with GOOD relationships without any kind of abuse, people seem so goddamned clingy and dependant that it drives me nuts. They act as if they can't possibly do a thing without so-and-so by their side every second of every day.

---

it can throw your emotions out of wack

some people are just generally clingy too

-------
pressure becomes real only the moment we acknowledge that it can affect us

But it's perfectly possible to have a relationship without being dependent at all and turn out fine. On the other end of the spectrum there are couples who hardly see each other or touch each other, and i don't "get" that, but it works for them.

---

It's complicated, you're missing something, people who are very involved with each other (and this unfortunately includes abusive relationships) have their identities or sense of self intertwined. They can put up with a lot of bad treatment and feeling bad, but the prospect of breaking up would hurt a lot more because it would seem like a part of them died. In extreme cases (and obviously in abusive cases) it's not healthy. But it's real and i think it's something that's hard to imagine for you.  

But it's perfectly possible to have a relationship without being dependent at all and turn out fine. On the other end of the spectrum there are couples who hardly see each other or touch each other, and i don't "get" that, but it works for them.

---

And in shorter-term relationships it causes serial monogamy, which as I've said before I emphatically reject as anything but a perversion of what a relationship is at all.

-------
Religion: Atheistic agnostic, political independent
Polyamory FAQ Relationships