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I've done that and when I date the guy who was my friend that is when he shows his dark side.

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Beyond that, I still think friendship first is best. No, it doesn't always work but it's still a good idea, certainly more so than not.

Also, where are looking initially? I don't pretend to be a good judge of where to look, if I was I'd have more success myself despite my unusual views. Still though, some places are not the best places to look.

Finally... This is just conjecture, but based on a friend of mine's experiences. Are you physically attractive? It seems that physically attractive people tend to attract those who are shallow/jerks/bitches/etc more easily whether they want to or not, and thus it's easier to miss talking to someone who might be worth talking to.
Personally I don't care about physical attractiveness, and I'm fairly average myself, so I talk to someone based on shared interests more often than anything else. For example, I can usually find good conversational partners at anime conventions, even if nothing else comes of it.

It may just be that you're not a good judge of character either. If that's the case, I suggest finding someone who is, making friends with them, and using them as a radar =P

Hope that makes sense.

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Quote: from belizabeth at 4:38 pm on July 10, 2009

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 I've done that and when I date the guy who was my friend that is when he shows his dark side.

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Out of curiosity, what do you mean by "dark side"? Just wondering about specifics.

Beyond that, I still think friendship first is best. No, it doesn't always work but it's still a good idea, certainly more so than not.

Also, where are looking initially? I don't pretend to be a good judge of where to look, if I was I'd have more success myself despite my unusual views. Still though, some places are not the best places to look.

Finally... This is just conjecture, but based on a friend of mine's experiences. Are you physically attractive? It seems that physically attractive people tend to attract those who are shallow/jerks/bitches/etc more easily whether they want to or not, and thus it's easier to miss talking to someone who might be worth talking to.
Personally I don't care about physical attractiveness, and I'm fairly average myself, so I talk to someone based on shared interests more often than anything else. For example, I can usually find good conversational partners at anime conventions, even if nothing else comes of it.

It may just be that you're not a good judge of character either. If that's the case, I suggest finding someone who is, making friends with them, and using them as a radar =P

Hope that makes sense.

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What I mean by the dark side is that I find out there true motive. I am sort of attractive but that is not what gets me the guys. I use my personality more than anything.

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