Good luck.

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Don't know the level of his intelligence but you know if he can carry on conversations that are at a level that will satisfy you. You know if he is comfortable with all types of people and would not embarrass you in social settings. "Book" sense is not always a measure of the quality of the person. Some more than make up for it with their curiosity, determination, stamina, interest, assertiveness and lack of being lazy. Sense of responsibility, loyalty and trustworthiness will most likely make a better mate than someone that is smart but lazy. However now is the time to assess his qualities, not five years after you marry him. If you feel that his future may be questionable but your love for him prevails perhaps you need to step up and pressure him to reach high levels of achievement. Guys often need it!

Good luck.

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Yeah, I'm definitely 'pressuring him' in some sense.  Not something like, "you're not good enough like this", because that's not how I feel.  But I really think he could benefit from going to school in many ways... to keep his brain active, to give him a sense of accomplishment (he already regrets not going from the start... and now I think he's mainly discouraged about it)... I just think it would help him be more happy with himself from the things he's told me he's frustrated with.

But who knows... I definitely question things sometimes... but I don't know if those questioning thoughts are products of the doubt my family may have placed or if they are really my own concerns...