I tell her all the time how sexy and beautiful I think she is, and she knows how attracted to her I am, but it hasn't really helped at all. She seemed to be back to normal after I made a three course candlelit dinner for her one night, but it's sorta hard to make a gesture that big every time I see her, and they'd lose their value if I did that anyway.

Anyone have any ideas of things I can do to convince her that she's still sexy?

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Offer to do something sexual with her that you haven't done before, particularly if it is something she has wanted and you dislike doing.

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Quote: from Bzoink at 8:00 pm on July 10, 2009

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Offer to do something sexual with her that you haven't done before, particularly if it is something she has wanted and you dislike doing.

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The problem with this and just having sex with her is that she doesn't want to have sex. I frequently try to initiate it, and only take my hands off of her when she makes it clear that she wants me to. And I can't really do anything new with her sexually, since I am by far the more sexually adventurous one of us, and short of a threesome with another guy, which I refuse to do, she hasn't told me about anything she wants to do that we haven't done already.

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Be romantic or something and make a fancy din din and show how much you love her and what not then and maybe the not feeling sexy will lessen.

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Quote: from aeternus at 11:03 pm on July 10, 2009

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Quote: from Bzoink at 8:00 pm on July 10, 2009

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Offer to do something sexual with her that you haven't done before, particularly if it is something she has wanted and you dislike doing.

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 The problem with this and just having sex with her is that she doesn't want to have sex. I frequently try to initiate it, and only take my hands off of her when she makes it clear that she wants me to. And I can't really do anything new with her sexually, since I am by far the more sexually adventurous one of us, and short of a threesome with another guy, which I refuse to do, she hasn't told me about anything she wants to do that we haven't done already.

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That is unfortunate, really nothing sexually she wants to do that you haven't done?

Be romantic or something and make a fancy din din and show how much you love her and what not then and maybe the not feeling sexy will lessen.

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No, nothing. She's really unadventurous in bed, which is a bit of a problem for me, but she knows that. She's not at all comfortable doing anything she hasn't done already.

And I did just make a surprise romantic dinner for her about a week and a half ago, although I guess I could try and think of something else to do.

sometimes nothing anyone can say would really help

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run 2 laps around the block with her. help her burn those calories.

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I second this! If she thinks she's fat, you reassure her you think she's fine, however if she wants to get slimmer again (which I'm assuming she does) then you'll be there to support her and help her achieve it.

That's all you can really do, or just give her time to realise it herself.

I think most of us girls go through phases like this. I did a while back where I didn't want my bf to even really touch me, but I just felt like it, I hadn't put on weight. I got over itttt.

Post edited at 2:40 pm on July 22, 2009 by carbonara

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