You talk to her about it and tell her that your worried about her. Chances are she isn't going to want to talk about it right now, but make sure that she knows you are there for her, that you love her and want her to be happy and healthy.  

Post edited at 3:45 am on June 11, 2009 by W o n d e r l a n d

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Most people would rather be certain they're miserable, than risk being happy.

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Yes, this is a support forum, but I think you would rather wait for some half decent replies to the topic, than what you would get if people were to reply straight away with some pretty unhelpful replies.

You talk to her about it and tell her that your worried about her. Chances are she isn't going to want to talk about it right now, but make sure that she knows you are there for her, that you love her and want her to be happy and healthy.

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Thanks for the advice.. Yeah I was just really frustrated because I want to help her and I couldnt even get some advice.

 However, if you tell her that, she might think you are thinking she's fat and needs her to lose weight.
 The cause of her eating disorder could be low self-esteem, so if there's any way you can try to make her more confident...
 
Bah I'm blabbing away. You can start with something simple, send her an email everyday with a quote, about how you love her and remind her everyday that you will be there for her if she needs any help through your email. And maybe end off with saying that she's beautiful and stuff.

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Many sufferers of eating disorders have low self esteem, if that's the case maybe you could try help her with that problem. Just randomly complement her, for example "Your hair looks nice today". Trust me, a few words can go a long way. I remember when I was in the same situation as you two were and the little things really did end up helping. Remember not to just do it as a chore or when you think she needs it but complement her out of love.

Before you do any thing make sure you two have established a sense of trust in your relationship. If you both trust each other it's more likely she'll open up to you however if she doesn't trust you enough she can just lie to face about the whole issue. It takes a lot of trust to admit such a big problem so just make sure you talk to her when you feel you have that trust, however, if you think the issue is a serious one maybe you should talk to her sooner rather than later.

If you need anything at all feel free to PM me anytime. I wish you guys all the best!

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Post edited at 7:42 am on June 29, 2009 by Miss Cupcake

You love her as she is, however she is and do not want her to change because of her feeling fat. Explain this to her. Eating disorders are not things you can get over in a day or week; it takes full commitment and time to pass through one of those.

You're her boyfriend, push her to become better, explain your love for her and how you do not even think she's fat. They're serious and I'm happy that you're doing more than thinking this in your head. When you talk to her, explain your concerns for her health, do not assign guilt and avoid getting angry.

If she denies it or shuts you out, do not give up. Like I said before, commitment needs to be there, this tests that. If it comes to it call the 24-hotline for eating disorders if you're in the U.S. (1-800-931-2237). If even talking to someone proves unsuccessful, do not hesitate to seek alternative treatment. Counselors are there for this kind of thing and even though you'll have some opposition, it's worth it to have her back to her healthy self.

Good luck!