All my life I've always stuck up for my brother when kids at school picked on him. Even when I was in elementary school and two years younger than him. I've always been generous to him when I thought he really needed help. Has he done anything for me in return? Absolutely not.

He consistently abuses me with words. He picks on me, comments on my appearance and weight, puts me down on my academics, upsets me about things he knows would. I don't know why he does this. I know it's normal for siblings to dispute, but this is just too much. Every time I walk into the door from school, he immediately starts with his immature 'name-calling.' Fat being a frequent one, should I mention I'm not fat (being a vegan). Yet, it still hurts me, even if I ignore it and don't show any emotion.

It doesn't help that my dad is an alcoholic and my mothers does nothing. They let my brother torment me, all day long, they say just to ignore it, that he's just 'mental.' Don't they understand that even if I try to ignore it, a little bit gets to me and bothers me.

It would be nice to have someone there to relate to and stick together when my family issues become violent. When my dad comes home drunk and threatening. My mom just complains, and I have no one else to talk to. I just have my brother, who only adds to my frustration and stress.

I'm thinking of staying outside my home as much as possible. I can't take it anymore. I don't know what I should do. Help.

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I'm sorry about that, I don't want to sound like a creeper but how old are you? Can you move out yet? I would do that if you can. Maybe move in with a friend. If your to young than try showing him what its like, emotions are not a bad thing, sometimes when we let them go we say the most brilliant things. Just try to show him what its like to be picked on, you don't have to do beat him up up try picking his brain, I mean you did say he dropped out of college right? Use smarts.

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I'm 17. I'll be going to college next year so I won't have to deal with in five months. It's just right now I'm really stressed with school and testing and I don't need any more to add to that.

I think that's the deal. He HAS been picked on by other kids all his life. He knows what it's like and he vents by acting that way to me. Trust me, I verbally fight back every once in a while but I'm a calm person. I don't like to fight when it's not necessary. So most of the time it's just him, even if his situation is much MUCH worse than mine.

I guess some people are just narcissistic and you can't change that. I would love to move out but I don't have anyone close to that would take me in. Plus, my parents wouldn't like that and I'm sure my dad would call the police to 'solve' the problem.