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Okay this may not seem like a big deal to any of you but it is to me and i'd rrrrealllly appreciate some advice :/ that is after all what this website is about... right? PLEASE read this and help me. i'd really appreciate it :( Ok. so Jake and I have been dating for 2 and a half years. We've smoked weed, and drank and shit. for the first 6mo he made a HUGE deal about how he didnt want me to smoke weed and how he'd break up with me if i didnt stop. So i did. then one night i came to his house because he said he was "sick and playing W.o.W (comp game)" at home... then when i get there he's gone. i waited for him to come back and he came back hella stoned.
okay thats background information. I've screwed up and got drunk once during that time frame also, just to put that out there in case that matters.
FASTFORWARD TO TODAY:
Ali (pronounced Ollie, Jake's best friend) grows shrooms and sells them. You know, cool, whatever floats his boat. I've asked Jake previously on numerous occasions if he's ever done it and he said he hasnt, and swears he hasnt. I've never said he COULDNT but i think its a little obvious i'm not comfortable with it and he knows it... which is why i think he lied.
then (bad bad girlfriend) i checked his facebook account. he doesnt know i know his password. And i stumbled across this: 9:26pmChris
you clean? 9:26pmJake
na. i smoke and shroom here and there like what the fuck.
what would you do if you were in my situation?
its not so much that he's taken shrooms, thats not what bothers me. It's that he LIED to me about it... on MULTIPLE occasions.
sorry if this was long.
but i'd REALLY like some advice. i know i shouldntve checked his facebook... i know i know. but something was just telling me to and when i did i found that. idk :/
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You cant really confront him on it, maybe just mention it and talk like adults.
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So why did I do it? I could offer a million answers, all false.
The truth is that I'm a bad person, but that's going to change.
I'm going to change.
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lovexstoriee
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Maybe hes trying to sound cool?
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life is like photography, you develop from the negatives.
if god gives you lemons, find a new god. =)
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Total Destruction
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You 2 need to work on communication.
1)Because he lied to you
2)Because you're a nosy bitch and read his messages.
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The ___... it brings the ___
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Littlestoxie
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You can't really approach him in this situation as he'll feel he can't trust you since you did snoop around in his personal information.
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"Love means exposing yourself to the pain of being
hurt, deeply hurt by someone you trust."
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burn the banks
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he have the right to do what he wants.......
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omgxitsxjosh
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Well I think when you get down to it, the issue is one of trust. You have to ask yourself what this mean to you personally, because everyone takes it differently, and how you will live with it. How much has it affected you? What does it mean for him to be honest with you? Can you still be with him even though he has lied to you? These are a few questions you should ask to figure out how you want to address the issue. Any way around it, you violated his privacy. He's going to be defensive about it. Now, whether it is justified or not is irrelevant. It happened. That is something he will be dealing with emotionally, on top of being found out. That's important to realize if you're confronting him. If he wants you to, apologize for overstepping that boundary. He will have a trust issue to resolve now as well since you hacked his Facebook account. Lastly, decide what this means for your future. Talk to him and explain to him what it means for him to be clean, your reasoning, a compromise, anything. Root out the issue and decide what you both want and find a middle ground from there. I hope it all works out. The most important thing to do is to go in with an intent to listen and work through it, not bring an agenda to the table. :]
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C'est la vie...
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You cant really confront him on it, maybe just mention it and talk like adults.
