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This girl that used to message me all the time
Replies: 11 — Last Post Nov. 10 4:18pm by inkreduble bulk
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One day, she got upset over something. I tried to talk to her about something. I offered my support, I listened to her, and tried to be positive and advise her, but she kept shooting everything I said down, and was so negative to the point where I just didn't care anymore, and told her to message me when she'd calmed down. That was a week or two ago, she never messaged me back, and I don't think she will.

I feel horrible about it, but if you aren't going to even TRY to listen to me, what am I supposed to do?

4:07 pm on Nov. 10, 2009
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Uh...stop talking to her??
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Quote: from Taliabbi at 4:08 pm on Nov. 10, 2009
Uh...stop talking to her??
I did. I just said she hasn't messaged me back, meaning we haven't spoken.
4:08 pm on Nov. 10, 2009
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sometimes women are irrational like that

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Just let her simmer down.


She might not actually have time to get on LW, be patient

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ignore her


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whoisabs


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She might have just been a drama whore.

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Taliabbi


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Quote: from Anonymous at 4:08 pm on Nov. 10, 2009
Quote: from Taliabbi at 4:08 pm on Nov. 10, 2009
Uh...stop talking to her??
I did. I just said she hasn't messaged me back, meaning we haven't spoken.

Yeah, and stop talking to her.

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Most of the time people don't want constructive advice; they just want somebody to listen and be sympathetic.

If someone's shooting down reasonable suggestions it's a sign that you should keep your mouth shut and let them feel sorry for themselves for a while. At a certain point continuing to offer advice becomes argumentative, and the person you're trying to help is left feeling that you've turned on them when they needed on you.

Of course that's not really rational or fair, but people don't tend to be rational when they're upset. Apologise to her.

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Sometimes frustrations build and we need time alone, the best to do now, is sit back and relax a little, and when she does come back offer something. Sometimes by showing return kindness to someone, they will realise they were irrational and respond back with an added apology. But the biggest thing is to not let your feelings intangle. because when two hot emotions collide its like WW2 all over again. I realise she was rude to you obviously, but sometimes we dont know what might be going on and something small can set someone off. Try to remain calm and reasonable, and wait for her to come to you.
You did the right thing by saying talk to me again when you cool down. that way your not saying "i dont want to see you again"
you did good, now just let things tide.

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call her a whore and send her ass back to the kitchen.

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