Now for why I'm confused. My girlfriend's family always tells her she's selfish (though the times they've said it I side with her) and it's starting to make me think about when we have sex. Maybe she is selfish? Does she like pleasuring me like I do for her? Should she really be grossed out by the thought of a penis? I love her more than anything, she is an amazing girl, but this is the one thing that kind of bums me out. We're 18 and our sex life has already reached it's peak, the only new thing she is willing to try is sex in different places and we're already running out of those!

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and it grosses you out, now that she mentioned it.

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Some girls just aren't comfortable with that. It really is kind of degrading. Maybe she just wants to keep things on level footing in your relationship. Hard to explain but I can see where she's coming from, although I don't see why she wouldn't pleasure you in other ways.

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Yeah I can understand why she doesn't. Not getting oral doesn't bother me. It's the fact that she seems to have no interest in my penis, not even during foreplay before sex. Her hands are never anywhere near my penis. I've never experienced this before her. Normally it's pretty equal on the desire to pleasure the other person, but with her I just don't think she has that desire. I don't think she means to have it so one sided though.

Josh

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I think she needs to get over it. I think that it would be worse to give oral to a female. I mean, c'mon, have you seen it down there? Weird...

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I don't mind it at all...she isn't dirty, and it doesn't taste bad...

Quote: from gucciva at 12:51 am on Nov. 11, 2009

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I would say she's selfish, yes. And also, society always tell us that girls need long foreplay and guys are always ready for sexx. Ofcourse it's not always true.
Did you talk to her about that?
And, one more thing, your sexual life didn't reach its peak. I really hope it's not.

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I told her I enjoy it when she pleasures me, and would like it to happen more, but haven't had a chance to see if she will do it without me asking for it. And yeah, it's pretty much peaked. She's not open to much and we've already exhausted most of the popular positions/places she actually will try! I'm thinking our perceptions of what sex should be differ a little. I think she wants it to be a purely romantic and emotional, where as I want to have a bit of fun...try new things.

She said she was dying to have sex in the shower, but I told her it would be a little tricky (and possibly dangerous) the way she wants me to do it. She wants me to hold her up which is tiring! We were talking about it and I suggested that we could try her being bent over, hands on the wall and her immediate response was "That doesn't sound like fun!"

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