Oh darling, you are NOT defined by those people. You are unique and special and you don't deserve to be called those things by immature kids. That's all they are - they aren't very smart, they aren't very happy and they pick on other people because it makes them feel a bit superior. I wish I could give you a hug. Go and hug someone in your family. You are a precious person. Throughout your life you will come across true friends who recognise your worth. Look for those people and ignore the ones who are mean, because they are not worth your time. You can be a strong, confident woman no matter what type of body you have.