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What will I do when one of them goes?
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This is serious now...

I'm worried about my parents, my uncle and my grandmothers.

My uncle has prostate cancer, and is going to have an operation, but there's a chance he might not survive;
My parents are both old, my mum has a heart problem, and my dad has rheumatoid arthritis and hardly coping;
My grandmothers are even OLDER, one of them doesn't want to live any more, she's so fed up, and the other had a stroke.

What will I do if one of them goes? I'm so afraid I might lose them soon, I don't even have any family here in Portugal, they're all in Poland or the UK.

Please, I just don't know what to do or think any more.

My dads not even here, he's in Sweden, trying to get work and trying to patch up his infected foot (he's taking Enbrel, look it up)

Please help.

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1:18 pm on Nov. 1, 2009 | Joined: Dec. 2007 | Days Active: 324
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Take as much time as you can and spend it with your loved ones while you can. Too often people are left regretting they never did before they passed, and you don't want to feel like that. However, also try being a little more independent. Do you live with your parents or no? If so, have you thought about getting a job? Taking on more responsibilities?

If you do live alone, you're going to have some coping issues when they're gone, but if you're strong, you'll survive and get by with what family is left. Its not like they're all going to go at once, you will over time grow and mature and cope with each situation if and when it arises. Maintaining what family relationships you have now is vital to your mental well being, and its just nice to be with them and let them know how much you care, especially if the times start to get tougher.

Any more info on your situation would help.

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What will you do if one of them goes? Well, you'll grieve, and you'll move on. Death isn't the end of everything. The world is changing every day. I don't know about you, but I believe that pretty much, the good and the bad in life even out. You might lose one of your relatives now, and that will be a terrible thing, but that doesn't mean the rest of your life is going to be overshadowed by it. One day, you'll probably get married and have children of your own, and one day they'll worry about you dying as well. There's good and bad in everything.

I would count your blessings. You have the time now that many people wish for after their loved ones are gone. You have the chance to talk to your loved ones, to spend time with them if you can, to make sure that your memories of them will be as rich as possible and that you'll be able to remember them for the rest of your life.

No matter what happens, remember that time is a great healer and the sun will rise in the morning whether you like it or not.

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