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But I thought I might get better replies here. Probably not.

I am a student governor at my college, which basically means we chair on the college corporation and assist in decisions with disability policies, equality policies, accounts, etc...

Now just recently, I have been very busy. But my fellow student governor (and 'friend) Job (yes his name is Job lol.) has been putting me up for all these things.. Last week he volunteered me for a committee I don't have time to chair, but I couldn't turn it down... This week he has agreed that we will give a presentation at an opening evening.

I don't know when the open evening is, where it is, etc.. He hasn't even sent me the presentation so I can prepare, and it's on Monday!

How do I tell him to back off?


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If you don't have the time to do all of these spots which he's placing you on, isn't there any way you can just kindly deny him? Eh, it's kind-of ignorant of him (literally ignorant :P) to just put you up for those things, not asking you first or seeing if it conflicts with your schedule. I know you said you can't turn it down, but I don't necessarily understand why? He could have just as easily put himself in that position, rather than putting you into it. And for him to just bypass that thought is kind-of strange. :/ Ehk, some people are weird. Sometimes the only thing we can do is talk to them. That sounds like a basic answer, I know, but he's never going to get the point if you don't talk to him.

Just express yourself and your feelings about the situation as a whole. Tell him you simply don't have the full time to commit to everything he's volunteering you for. Surely he'll understand that, or just ask him to back off for a while while you get your priorities straight; then you can start adding on things like that. :/ You can't really add things to your schedule, especially if it's stressing you out, right?? Drop what you can now, and go back to them when you're capable. :)

Hopefully this helps a tad bit, if not, I'll continue to help :)

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Well, when that usually happens, the person usually thinks they're looking out for you, setting you in stone, making you look perfect, all that jazz. I mean, I wouldn't blame him or get mad or anything because he's probably trying to look out for you. Right?

You basically just need to tell him that you are already full to your neck and trying to be on another committee isn't going to work for you. You have your own agenda and he cannot dictate it. You basically just need to say that "I cannot take on any more commitments, I have too much going on right now and I'd really appreciate it if you didn't volunteer me for stuff. I still love you though." Just make sure you don't sound pissed or he might take it differently than if you mentioned how you still like him as a friend.

You don't want to tell him to back out of your life, that'd be mean.


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